Understanding, respect, attention are the basic values of every family. When they disappear: you to me - I to you, when everything is common, when you listen to each other, when you appreciate every moment given only to you, then all doubts disappear - the point of the couple exists. This is the key to harmony. Of course, there are many other factors that affect relationships and mutual understanding, which should not be forgotten, it is impossible to calculate everything. But with a common basis, you can always come to an agreement. When choosing a life partner, remember - we do not choose a carefree life. But, nevertheless, we want to wake up every morning from a kiss or at least the aroma of fresh coffee, hugging in a dream, looking into our eyes and kissing our noses. And he doesn't care what you look like, wearing makeup or not. One whole is when there are no complexes... no shame... no conventions... no prohibitions...
Relationships and family
Harmony, it is in the privacy of two people. And it’s not sex that makes you closer, but the fact that it is in making love between people that a thread is born that is very important in a relationship. True intimacy, trust and the ability to feel each other. If not, then there is no relationship. For harmony in the family - it is not sex that is important, but the ability to feel each other.
The family is the place where a person can open up to the maximum.
A person is born in a particular family not by chance, it is this family, these conditions that he needs for self-realization.
The family is a living system, it develops, changes, reacts to the state of each of its members. And there are many components of the well-being of this system:
Family Health
If one person falls ill, then this is a test for the whole family, regardless of who is ill, an adult or a child. Moreover, the health of all family members depends largely on the "climate" family relations. Any flowers begin to hurt and wither in a bad, unfriendly environment, the same happens in the family. The illness of one of the relatives suggests that it is important for the family to unite even stronger and love each other.
Family and harmonization of relations between spouses
Normally, spouses will be easy with each other if there is a unity of three aspects: physical compatibility, spiritual intimacy (I like to be with each other, interesting, pleasant) and spiritual kinship (when people are similar in relation to life, they agree on fundamental issues). When people begin to live together, they usually have consent. But over time, it is lost, negative is accumulated, which then does not allow people to hear and understand each other.
Husband and wife should understand their tasks in the family. If we imagine that the family is a ship, the task of the husband is to guide this ship, to decide where it will sail. A woman is an assistant, she monitors the state of the ship, creates the conditions (basis) for the movement of the ship. Together they are a team, and the family ship confidently sails forward, it is not afraid of any difficulties. But if someone from the team refuses to fulfill his task or takes on the task of another person, problems will begin and such a ship will not sail far.
So in family life: if one of the spouses begins to solve a problem that is not their own, the relationship worsens. One of the partners may even decide to leave the family just because he is unable to fulfill his task in the family.
Active strong-willed women in families often have such a picture: the wife does everything herself, decides everything herself, the husband does nothing, lies on the couch. At the same time, she constantly “nags” him for the fact that he is a slacker and does not need anything. But after all, she took on his task - to "lead the ship" - and he has no choice but to step aside and not interfere. She does not see this, she cannot look at herself from the outside. In such a relationship, it will be difficult for both spouses and their children.
In order to correct the situation, it is necessary to put the woman in order (bring the subtle bodies back to normal, remove those distortions that appeared as a result of her illiterate behavior). Then a lot depends on her. She will need to learn to behave in a new way.
Ethics of family relations
In the family, as in any other system, relations between people must be ethical. Ethical relationships are when you treat another person, seeing in him a PHENOMENON OF LIFE, and treat this LIFE with care.
One of the main principles of ethical communication is respect for the free will of another person. Of course, members of the same family are the closest people to each other, but they are also individuals, with their own inner world and relationships outside the family. And when someone violates the freedom of another, then conflicts begin in the family and one person is lost. important point- the trust.
What can be considered a violation of freedom and unethical behavior? There are many examples. For example, daughter adolescence keeps a personal diary, my mother accidentally finds it, and, of course, reads it. But in the diary there are secret and very personal things that are not intended for mother's eyes. If the daughter finds out about this, how will she trust her mother?
But if the daughter sees that her mother is acting ethically - she doesn’t read her daughter’s diary or letters without permission, doesn’t rummage through her pockets, doesn’t check all calls to mobile phone, but treats her daughter as an adult, treats her with trust and respect, then the daughter herself will want to tell something to her mother.
Or another example: a woman constantly controls her child or husband, both in words and mentally: "Where did you go? With whom? Why? When will you return? Where is you now?" etc. The child or husband feels this and tries to get away from it. Men go fishing, to the garage, to friends, children try to spend more time outside the home. So total control a woman creates difficulties in the life of those about whom she "cares".
We know and feel our loved ones very well, we, without even realizing it, easily select “keys” for them and often try to manipulate them. We appropriate them, saying “my husband”, “my child” (and after all, a person can call “his” only what he himself has gained or realized), we consider ourselves entitled to make decisions for them (“I know what is best for you "- a phrase familiar to many). But all this is not ethical behavior, as it violates the freedom of our loved ones and creates problems in their lives.
On the one hand, it is difficult to get away from these problems. We do many things unconsciously, we do it because our mothers and grandmothers did it, we saw it and “soaked” it. But on the other hand, it's easy. To do this, you just need to learn to hear and see what we ourselves are doing, as if from the outside. And having knowledge of how to act and how not to, just move away from illiterate behavior, from schemes. Your behavior will change, your attitude towards your loved ones - and you will see how they have changed and how much more light has become in your family!
Parenting
Children under 10-12 years of age are highly dependent on their parents psychologically and emotionally. At the same time, they absorb everything that they see and feel in the family - the manner of speaking and acting, intonation.
All of you probably know that if you tell your child every day that you need to fold your things neatly, but at the same time you yourself constantly scatter them, then the child will not hear your words, but will see your actions, and will do the same. The attitude towards oneself, towards others, towards the World in general in a child is also formed in the family.
The word education contains the word "nourishment". Parents, of course, feed and clothe their children. But the main thing that parents can give is nourishment with spiritual values and love. If you do not like something in your children - look at yourself, because they, looking at you, have absorbed it. Children, like a mirror, show you how you usually behave: what you say, how you act. You change, they change too.
Creating a family is the most responsible step that we take in our lives. Having taken this step, we pass into the world of genuine social maturity. This is, first of all, the willingness to take responsibility for the responsibility of another person.
Family - a word derived from the ancient Slavic "seven" - worker, servant, household.
A formalized marriage union gives a woman the opportunity to feel confident, reliable in her position, affects her dignity and well-being. In a legal marriage, love relationships are open, obvious to everyone, and most importantly, supported by public opinion and from this they become stronger.
Family life, it can be said, is a symbiosis of sexual, intimate-psychological and household intimacy. Therefore, when entering into these relationships, you must be clearly aware that by taking this step, you have already passed the period of clarifying your compatibility issues and are embarking on a qualitatively new path to the formation of your family.
An important question that arises is where to live. If you do not yet have your own separate housing, and the fear of possible difficulties prevents you from independent searches for new ways, and you decide to stay in your parental home, then you should be prepared for the fact that you cannot avoid parental care in this situation. And of course, you will have to reckon with the family structure that has already developed in the house.
There are pros and cons here. For example, according to sociologists, quarrels in a young family arise regardless of whether they live separately or with their parents. But the number of divorces is less in those young families who live with their parents. And strange as it may seem at first glance, where the material conditions are better, including the resolved issue of separate housing, there are also much more divorces.
Many young couples, approaching the principles of creating a family, its development strategy, are mistaken, thinking that we, they say, will live in a completely different way, we will organize everything differently than the old people. But, as they say, you don’t need to invent a wheel, you can just add something of your own. Of course, each family is different in some way, but the fundamental principles, the formation of the way of the family, psychological climate, sexual compatibility, this is already the accumulated experience of generations. It must be studied and learned to skillfully use in your newly formed young family.
This is undoubtedly difficult and hard work, but it pays off a hundredfold with the harmony of marital understanding, family comfort, the happiness of children and a calm old age.
The most important thing is to preserve the love that exists between you, with which you came to the family. Do not let her dissolve into the routine of family relationships. This is the invisible foundation on which the happy well-being of every family rests. It is no secret that a prosperous family atmosphere, its spirit, so to speak, largely depends on a woman. By nature, a woman perceives the multiple nuances of relationships faster, better and more subtle, and how she behaves in the family, what mood she sets, such an atmosphere will develop.
He is looking for beauty - I will become more beautiful,
Uma - I will stand before him divine
Whatever he wants, what love wants,
What does he know, or hear, or read?
He finds all the joys in me -
So what will he be tempted to do in others?
And if it's hard to be faithful,
He will find thousands of others in myself.
A. Eroe
Many young couples, as statistics show, are faced with opposing positions regarding which of the two should be loving and which should be loved. For some reason, everyone is sure that he should be the object of love. Such a position initially leads to further clashes and confrontations in sorting out relationships, introduces an unhealthy atmosphere into the family, leads to the destruction of love, without which the family will simply fade away, like a fire without firewood. And then we wonder how she disappeared, we doubt whether she was at all.
It is difficult to create harmonious relationships in the family, even if one of the spouses is selfish in his role. Constant readiness for self-sacrifice of oneself, one's personal interests for the benefit of the family - this is the path to harmony.
This includes restraining one's irritation, and jumping up at night to the child's bed, and erasing diapers, and solving the mass of everyday issues that we face daily in the family. The family is the daily fulfillment of one's certain obligations, established by the family way of life. The family is also a psychological refuge for each of us. Everyone, coming home, undoubtedly wants to find rest, relaxation, a sense of support and mutual understanding here. Especially in difficult times. It is necessary to analyze each other's problems that arise at work, in other situations. It is impossible to allow a person to close his problems in himself, it is unacceptable to distance himself from the difficulties that arise in the life of a spouse. Help and get help yourself - that's the motto of the family.
The art of family life lies in the fact that everything that is positive in one becomes the property and pride of another.
The family, as a complex system of relationships, involves interaction and management. "Who is the head of the family?" is not an unimportant question. In the process of time, the attitude of each spouse to family life is manifested. The leader becomes the one who is able to maximally contribute to the implementation of the implementation of all the functions of the family, that is, he performs his duties better than the other. family responsibilities. Therefore, whoever assumes the powers of the head of the family receives more as a result of duties than rights. As experience shows, the desire for absolute power in the family of one of the spouses is not the best form of organizing family relations, which ultimately leads to physical and psychological overload. The most prosperous situation is in those families where the issue of leadership is not on the agenda at all. Where there is no struggle for the leadership of one of the spouses, there is no clearly defined headship of the husband or wife.
The emotional and psychological balance of the family directly depends on the satisfaction of the needs for care, affection, attention to each other, sexual satisfaction. Each of the spouses must receive in marriage their own minimum requirement for satisfying these requests. Otherwise, due to the resulting discomfort, negative feelings and emotions develop, which gradually undermine the stability of the family.
There is no need to use the tactics of criticism in the family, this is a harmful method, the functions of which can only be destroyed. Almost all wives of the well-to-do families surveyed use criticism extremely rarely and in small doses. But in dysfunctional families, wives are constantly criticized. This gradually leads to a violation of spiritual harmony, the husband’s sense of usefulness and value disappears. As a result, it can lead to the fact that a person cannot assert his self in the family. And as a result, the marriage may fall apart.
What kind of husband will turn out from a man, as numerous life examples show, largely depends on the mind and female virtue. Of course, the attitude of a man who can elevate or humiliate a woman is also important.
You can not speak badly about your spouse in the circle of relatives, friends, acquaintances, it is necessary to protect the honor of the family. Engaging in the condemnation of a spouse in front of outsiders is a sign of bad manners, elementary disrespect for oneself. By doing this, you only bring up once again for discussion by everyone the question of why you chose him, and whether it is your fault that now everything is so bad.
In any family there can be periods of misunderstanding and resentment. Therefore, it is necessary to compromise, to show diplomacy. Sensitivity and tolerance can promote cooperation in the family.
W. Shakespeare wrote:
Try to protect yourself
Not for yourself: you keep the heart of a friend.
And I'm ready like loving mother,
Protect yours from grief and illness.
One destiny for our two hearts:
Freeze mine - and yours is the end!
The newlyweds begin life together, as a rule, already with the previously established, overestimated level of requests in all areas of life. And contradictions, disappointments are naturally inevitable here. Therefore, it is necessary, especially in the initial period of family relations, when there is an intensive grinding in, to try to lower your bar of requirements, not to follow your own lead in this regard. The interests of husband and wife should be common in everything. In prosperous families, a man gives in and helps his wife, in comparison, more than in dysfunctional families.
Try to communicate with each other more often. Make such a rule in your family, after work, share your impressions of the past day, making assessments and giving some advice to each other, compliments, encouragement. Get used to having dinner only together, always waiting for each other, at the table the atmosphere is more conducive to sharing impressions of the past day. Try to be aware of all the problems of the spouse. It is also important that your attention does not turn into importunity, which will simply annoy. Get some rest from each other if possible. For example, you can go to relatives for a short time, spend time with friends - this is also a manifestation of concern for the integrity of the family.
You should not completely lock yourself into the family in communication. As a rule, this leads to constantly arising frequent petty quarrels and conflicts, which, like rust, corrode the well-being of the family, as you simply annoy each other, limiting yourself in communication.
You need to learn the ability to refuse family to each other, while not offending the other. It is not so difficult, it is just necessary to give information about a possible refusal with humor. Promise to consider the request. The use of such tactics smooths out grievances.
Try to encourage each other in everything, especially in difficult moments for your spouse, sometimes even two or three, said in time kind words, mean a lot to a person, do not skimp on them. Compliment your wife more often, now she needs it even more than during the period when you met. Don't forget that women love with their ears. And wives need to remember that a man's heart is also sensitive, even to mean praise. The conclusion is very simple, you must always think positively about your husband - this is the shortest path to harmony and vice versa. The selfish character trait of concentrating on one's "I" is one of the factors destabilizing family relationships.
Harmonization of family relations
Russian teacher
language and literature
MAOU Gymnasium No. 18
The family is a society in miniature, from integrity
upon which the safety of the whole great society depends.
F. Adler.
The family is a unique institution, an intermediary between the individual and society. It is in the family that fundamental values are laid, which are passed down from generation to generation. The family contains a powerful potential for influencing the processes of social development. The level of well-being of society directly depends on the level of family culture. On the other hand, society itself influences the family and determines its socio-cultural characteristics.
The ongoing reforms of Russian society had an ambiguous impact on the family, led to profound changes in its life. Significant shifts have taken place in the composition and structure of Russian families. Over the past five years, the number of marriages in Russia has decreased by a third, while the number of divorces has rapidly increased. According to the annual report “On the situation of children and youth in the city of Nizhny Tagil”, every seventh child lives in an incomplete family, and this figure does not change. There is an increase in the number of children born in incomplete families. Every year, more than a thousand children under 18 remain with one of their parents as a result of divorces. Acquired a huge scale social orphanhood, in orphanages - orphans with living parents. There has been a steady trend towards a reduction in the number of children in a family, an orientation towards a one-child family, or even a family without children.
Today, much attention is paid to family problems, strengthening family relations, and increasing the birth rate. Government Russian Federation developed the "Concept of the demographic policy of the Russian Federation for the period up to 2020", where one of the main tasks is a taskcomprehensive strengthening of the institution of the family, as a form of the most rational life of the individual and its normal socialization.1
Today there is a need to pose and solve many traditional problems in the psychology of the family in a new way, related primarily to the study of individuality and individual development. Therefore, psychological services are now actively developing and operating at schools, the focus of which is not on a single child-student with his problems in learning or behavior, but on the whole family. Psychologists say that at present, almost one in five families needs counseling, and one in four develops strained relationships. All this is a manifestation of low family culture, especially among today's youth, and the lack of necessary knowledge of the laws and patterns of family life. To acquaint with these laws, to try to explain the behavior of the child through the analysis of the behavior of parents and thereby harmonize relations in the family is the task modern school, psychologists and teachers.
At all times, the Madonna and Child was perceived with reverence. The works of great painters and sculptors depicted such serenity and harmony between mother and child, which modern man seems unreal. At the same time, many great thinkers since the time of Socrates have lamented the rebelliousness, disrespect for elders, and the indiscipline of the youth of their day. Such a contradiction is observed even now: with each stage of the development of their child, parents expect more and more difficulties, while assuring themselves that supposedly the problems grow with the child. However, with their expectation and fear of the future, worried parents, without even realizing it, bring difficulties into life, which sometimes become difficult to overcome, and the help of a specialist is required. The main thing here is the understanding of how much the parents are aware of their correspondence to every moment of growing up of the “baby”, in relations with which everything was simple and easy before.
This point of view on the contradiction makes clear the statement: There are no hopeless children. There are only parents who are sometimes unaware of their own contribution to each case that causes them regret, disappointment or censure. A psychologist or teacher dealing with child-parent relationships is usually dealing with a problem that has arisen by no means today. Therefore, in order to establish an atmosphere of sincerity, harmony and happiness in the family, it seems necessary to note some parental ignorance and show their impact on the development of the child .1
1. Each child - the heir - the continuation of two births. The family of the father has accumulated vast experience over the centuries, and in the child it combines with the vast experience of the mother. The child becomes the owner of unique values - the experience of two births converges in him. Parents have an honorable duty before nature to preserve and develop this experience in the heir. To fulfill this honorable mission, it turns out, one must have solid knowledge and experience.
2. A child is an independent value, which must be conceived in love. Thus, he already “at the start” of his life receives an example of harmonious existence.
3. The child constantly needs confirmation of love for himself by his parents, and unconditional love, which does not require anything in return. It is believed that about three years of such love is required to give a child so that he can cope normally with the horrors associated with birth. Unfortunately, there has been a trend lately: replacing unconditional love with conditional love, which has absorbed a significant amount of rationality (if you do as I ask or want, I will love you, etc.)
4. An analysis of parental responsibilities makes it possible to reconstruct the image of a child as a weak and helpless being. Often these duties destroy the dignity of the child. Constantly comparing it with standards, samples and assessments that are significant for others, parents lose their taste for an independent opinion about the personality of their child, his image becomes blurred, loses integrity.
(Whose eyes do you look at your child? - learn to see with your own. Learn not to make decisions for your child. Learn to enjoy the decision-making by the child himself. Get rid of the habit of total control).
they have a taste for an independent opinion about the personality of their child, his arr, which has absorbed significant Parents will only bring up responsible behavior in their child when they learn to be responsible for their own behavior, and not for the actions of another.
5. The child sees the truth behind every word of an adult - he perceives sincerely and forever. It is necessary to carefully monitor any parental word in order to avoid unwanted repetition by the child and a deep memorization of the meaning, which sometimes they did not even mean. In this regard, it is necessary to abandon verbal labels, which are often “awarded” to children. The child who is named idiot, is practically doomed to show the corresponding qualities either immediately or in the future.
6. The family is the first society of the child, and in it he must find a deep sense of security. The system of rewards and punishments in the upbringing of children should be seriously revised. A feature of our Russian mentality is that we first of all see shortcomings, by all means we strive for the ideal. Therefore, at home and at school, the child only hears constant shouting, instructions, criticism. At the same time, words of praise are so lost that they cease to be meaningful and desirable. Some children even express dissatisfaction with their parents when they praise them. So, they feel insincerity, deceit. Often it is not the act that is evaluated, but the personality of the child (You bad boy - offended the girl - personality assessment, it is advisable to say: boy, you did a bad deed - offended the girl).
It must be remembered that for one criticism a child should receive four praises. It is necessary to notice even the most insignificant successes, any actions that required the application of certain efforts, and explain to the child how such behavior will be useful to him (not because he will please his father and mother, but he himself will receive some skills necessary for life).
So, a child is born already with a certain set of information, with a rich library, which mom and dad help the baby to unpack first of all. It is from their behavior: the relationship with each other, the relationship of each of them with the child that ultimately depends on the spiritual, mental and physical health child. Parents often complain that no one taught them how to raise their children, and it is very difficult to find a common language with modern children. This is the mission of the school: parent meetings, general education, through individual consultations and psychological trainings, to inform and train parents with the necessary knowledge and skills related to new research in the field of family psychology, genealogy, social psychology, etc. This will help parents gain a sense of confidence, harmony with themselves, with others world, and, therefore, with your child.
Used Books.
1. Analytical Bulletin No. 17 (129) of the Federation Council of the Federal Assembly of the Russian Federation. Family: XXI century. - Moscow, 2000.
2., Dokuchaeva and child-parent relationships. Materials of the seminar of the international school of tribal culture of the family. - Nizhny Tagil, 2005
3. Annual report "On the situation of children and youth in the city of Nizhny Tagil following the results of 2015". - N. Tagil, 2006
4. Spivakovskaya to be parents (about the psychology of parental love). M., 1986.
As they said in the old days, “To live life is not to cross a field”! Family life is always not only love and joy, but also gray everyday life, fatigue, cataclysms, and often with a cooling of feelings. Of course, if the characters of the spouses are not very strong, this can lead to discord, which is accompanied by family quarrels. It happens, of course, that the spouses themselves cannot find common language. But as practice shows, all this negativity can be blamed on a scandal (family quarrel), a love spell, or simply envy from others that has accumulated over the years. Relations between spouses under the influence of this negativity begin to go wrong, sometimes there is even a terrible hatred for each other, so much so that it can even lead to a break in relations. The once happy couple simply gets annoyed for no apparent reason, and people who loved each other become strangers, and instead of love, only mutual hostility and misunderstanding remains. But until recently, everything was fine: a joint vacation at sea and a romantic dinner in a restaurant by candlelight, walks under the moonlight, grandiose plans were made for the future, and then suddenly, like a black cat, ran between them. And then one of the spouses doubts whether what is happening is connected with the influence of some forces from the outside, the search for a grandmother or a magician begins. This is where the fun begins. Instead of sitting down and openly laying all their claims and dissatisfaction on the table, removing the cause of everything that is happening, a person immediately takes extreme measures that seem to her (him) the most effective - a love spell is simply ordered, which ultimately complicates an already difficult situation. Since a love spell is a spell on love, and for this sin, serious problems pile up on the customer of the love spell: health collapses, people lose their jobs, that is, they pay off the dark forces for the fulfillment of their desire.
Unfortunately, little is known to people that it is possible to harmonize family relationships without resorting to black witchcraft (there are no white love spells, just as you cannot spoil a person in white), without taking sin on yourself and your children.
I can help normalize relations between spouses, peace and tranquility return to the family, but not through other people's forces, but with the help of their own efforts. To do this, it is enough to clear negative energy, like a windshield in a car that has driven into a puddle, after which the driver simply does not see where he is driving. I also do this by eliminating all the negativity imposed on the spouses. Want to try - you are welcome, please contact.
Recently, scientists have conducted studies, the results of which were simply shocking.
It turns out that spoken language is not so important, but body language is inseparable from intimacy in communication. The most important way to try to create harmony between interlocutors is to convey information through gestures. The connection between people, which is established with the help of gestures, establishes a contact that is difficult to call with words. Of course, I did not conduct my research, but I also know a little about harmony through gestures.
After all, you yourself noticed that you are able to understand a person with one glance? Of course, this is unlikely to work out with a stranger, but it will not work if the person is close. And how many times have you noticed that you are able to understand the interlocutor even without words. Mutual understanding is the key to harmony in the family. I would even say that this is the main thing. It all starts with him.
Strong relationships, as well as happy marriage, coupled with constant work! Heavy but loved. This work brings pleasure, but sometimes requires sacrifice in the form of a compromise.
The creation of a family is an attempt to unite into one whole the two halves of one soul, male and female, which were once a single whole, halves of one essence. This is how an ideal couple is characterized in Kabbalah. However, you cannot combine half an apple and half an orange. No matter how they fit together, they can never be whole. That is why, if this very point of the pair is not there, then no love spells will help here. Sooner or later, these two fruits will separate. Of course, you can combine everything, even an orange with an apple, but they will still fall apart sooner or later. And if you do not find your soul mate, there will be no whole. This can happen to families as well. You only need an apple, not an orange, only with it you will find happiness and find harmony. How to do this and how to understand, no one knows except yourself (yourself). Do not think that you will put up with character traits that you really cannot stand. You may want to change them in the future, but most likely you will not succeed. Character is formed in early childhood, when a person grows up, it is already very problematic to change him or, rather, break him. Therefore, if something really annoys you in a person, think carefully and decide for yourself whether you can live with it for many years. You can be different, you can fight over nonsense, you can have different values... you can even speak different languages, but at the same time without a single doubt to be one.
Understanding, respect, attention are the core values of every family. When they disappear: you to me - I to you, when everything is in common, when you listen to each other, when you appreciate every moment given only to you, then all doubts disappear - the point of the couple exists. This is the key to harmony. Of course, there are many other factors that affect relationships and mutual understanding, which should not be forgotten, it is impossible to calculate everything. But with a common basis, you can always come to an agreement. When choosing a life partner, remember - we do not choose a carefree life. But, nevertheless, we want to wake up every morning from a kiss or at least the aroma of fresh coffee, hugging in a dream, looking into our eyes and kissing our noses. And he doesn't care what you look like, wearing makeup or not. One whole is when there are no complexes ... no shame ... no conventions ... no prohibitions ... Harmony, it is in the solitude of two people ... And it’s not sex that makes you closer, but what exactly is in making love between people, that thread is born, which is very important in relationships. Real closeness, trust and ability to feel each other. And if not, then there is no relationship. For harmony in the family, it is not sex that is important, but the ability to feel each other.
To one of effective ways Harmonization of family relations can be attributed to the way of strengthening words, ideas, actions that harmonize the family as a family community, their relationships and the aura of the environment. Even a well-known scientist, a developer of functional systems, Academician P.K. Anokhin paid great attention in his writings to a deeper analysis of the word "interaction". Using numerous examples, he proved that "interaction" is possible only as the interaction of the elements of a system or systems with each other.
Only in this way complex systems achieve their result of development and it is possible to achieve harmonization, synergy, plasticity, cooperation of friendly ties in any interaction. Mutual co-action is a universal sign of harmony. Harmony is first of all an attitude, a correlation. In music, harmonious melodies are achieved by the ratio between intervals in a chord, joint sound, in harmonious ratios between intervals of sounds. A small change, and we hear that the chord sounds out of tune or, conversely, reaches a clear sound. A slight change in sound ratios, and we get a major or minor sound. Knowledge and o-consciousness of understanding the meaning of words in harmonizing family relationships can be turned into a play on words that fill the family aura with joy. The word "joy" has the prefix "ra". It is also known that in the Vedic literature Ra is the god of the Sun.
Hence, the pronunciation of words containing "ra" can and should be recognized as saturation, filling the surrounding family space, home, interaction of children, spouses with each other - joy, sunshine of communication. The word "Garden" can also be considered as a way of harmonizing family relations. At present, a lot of literature has appeared illustrating beautiful gardens, nature. The word "Garden", "Gardener" can sound like a metaphor for the transformation of family relationships into harmonious ones, where each member of the family community can bring a harmonious sound into harmonious personal space and families. It can fill it with beauty, the fragrance of sounds, words, co-participating in mutual co-action, self-co-creating the beauty of harmony as a creator. The idea of the "Garden" real life can fill and transform seed relationships into harmonious ones. Imagine a mother, father, a family in which from childhood they play with the child and among themselves in the names of words with a beautiful name and meaning. And you will feel how you yourself are filled with joyful color and light, how it becomes interesting for children to live in such a family, how parents and children learn to pronounce “flower words”. Games with a bias towards a harmonious side have been known for a long time.
The game captivates, educates, develops. So many adults still remember the children's "flower games" of the 50-90s. The children sat and said: “I was born a gardener, I was seriously angry, I was tired of all the flowers, except ...” and the names of the flowers were called: roses, carnations, lilacs, jasmine and other flowers. This is how the flowers of the garden were known, this is how a simple children's game laid in the child's soul the knowledge of the names of flowers, plants, trees. Developed a collective creative game, brought the players together. So it can bring together family relationships. You can remember how, near the house in the fresh air, parents, being children themselves, played wonderful games: hopscotch, skipping rope, shtandera (ball game), participating in a healthy lifestyle (healthy lifestyle). The children breathed fresh air. These games filled the space around kindergartens, schools, houses, dachas. It turns out that parents gave children mutual assistance to their health, creative development. Children did not just belong to the street, but received from their parents collective participation, “good”, educational process. As we see for the formation and transformation
sometimes you need very little and actions do not involve any expensive methods and solutions. At present, the space around the houses has been occupied by parent cars. There are fewer places for children to play outdoors, games have shifted to rooms, game rooms, clubs, discos, cafes. If we return to the flower garden, the surrounding space and imagine that, for example, climbing roses can be planted along the hedge kindergarten, schools, household plots - the economy will receive a large social environmental order (for example, for the cultivation of climbing roses and other flower, shrub, horticultural crops).
And for children, we - dads, moms, grandfathers, grandmothers - are our own natural technologies health improvement, we will improve places for games and harmonious cultivation, we will be able to influence the development of educational culture from childhood. The idea of "garden-gardener" - mutual assistance to ecology, creation, including healthy family creation, which is considered as a deeply scientific academician P.K. Anokhin, Corresponding Member of the National Academy of Sciences of Belarus N.I. Arinchin. A team of scientists and performers of the State Scientific and Technical Program "Biomechanics", headed by Academician of the National Academy of Sciences of Belarus Vysotsky M.S., and corresponding member. NASB Pleskachevsky, Doctor of Technical Sciences Algin A.B., Corresponding Member Manshin GG, the author of this article and many other scientists. After all, ecology is primarily translated from the ancient Greek oikos (house, dwelling). This is the science of the living conditions of a person (organisms) in the environment. From this word the concept of "oecumene" (ecumene) is formed, which serves to designate nature, mastered and inhabited by man. These ideas are flowing into the organization of the information system "public health - Environment» . Many of the ideas of harmonizing family relations do not involve any expensive costs, methods and solutions. However, from the revival or strengthening of such ideas, farming families can really get a big “flower social order”.
Also, roadside service is in great need of such living natural flower beds and hedges. the republic develops inbound tourism, logistics and is a transit zone where roads and houses along the roads require additional "green protection". And if farm plots are also planted with white roses, the symbol of "Belaya Rus" will come to life and revive the pure symbol of our "big family home". In one of the research assignments for the SSTP "Biomechanics", which was called "Development of the concept of methods and means of environmental human biomechanics", that the human resource, as a natural one, is exhaustible and renewable. However, there is a limit to the rate of withdrawal of natural resources, which means that the rate of aging, wear, deterioration of adaptation increases when the natural mode of interaction is violated.
A review of the main environmental components made it possible to see and evaluate that the human resource, as well as other natural resources, including family ones, is very depleted, exhausted and requires careful support and a comprehensive concept for maintenance, harmonization, because pronounced environmentally dependent, especially on the composition of the air environment, the biological action of electromagnetic artificial fields, waves, artificial transmitters. It is shown that for the development of the system of internal relations and the development of a person, a family in the system man-machine-environment (H-M-S), man-machine-technology (H-M-T), an ecological resource of the environment and internal environment of a person stands out as the basis of sustainable and perspective development individual, family and society as a whole. Understanding this serves to mutually co-act with this important process and also complements the ways of harmonizing seed relationships. Therefore, an "ecological basket of the main parameters of the organism's life support" was formulated.
This is a kind of ecological menu, the knowledge of which can also be considered as a way to harmonize family relations and develop this harmonization consciously. This basket includes the following parameters, the main life support of internal and external Endo-Eco-Logy and Endo-EcoInteraction, Mutual-Co-Action.
We list them: air, sleep, water, nutrition, communication (on a verbal and non-verbal level), movement, activity (labor), heat transfer, reproduction, utilization. This "basket" was born (was peeped, seen) using a new method of enhancing environmental feedbacks in the human body and human interaction with the environment. For more than twenty years, its "content" has been tested theoretically and on numerous practical examples of the behavior of the body with the norm of life-supporting indicators and their deviation. A special environmentally friendly material enhances the feedback of the body with itself at the receptor-cellular level.
As a result of this interaction, it turned out that cleansing processes in the body begin to improve first of all, ecological ties, sanogenesis, self-regulation are strengthened, by the type of improving the balance of internal processes, stabilizing and harmonizing emotional balance. Higher spiritual qualities begin to shine. One gets the impression that a certain natural, embedded standard is laid in the body. The organization of strengthening the harmonious, ecological parameters of the internal environment of the body requires an ecologically named menu for this. "Ecological menu" and its 10 main parameters in itself expands the understanding of the word "natural nutrition".
Food, nutrition and their understanding expands to a broad understanding of nutrition, including in a spiritual way, and not just gastronomic. Love can be seen as the high point of exchange of lovers. And warm friendly communication and cold, joyless, crisis, hopeless coexistence - also have different "nutritional value". To harmonize family relations, a living, creative thought is required, enriched with natural content and mutual assistance of both spouses to this principle and understanding. So, to balance one basket, the internal basket of human parameters, a second basket is needed, in which you can put the most important components of life support: space, time, color, light, connections and awareness of the concepts of balance, harmony, synergy, locomotion, uniform distribution, cooperation, healthy lifestyle, health creation (health), creative, spiritual, spiritually pure filling.
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