: don't get hung up
I want to say right away: despite the fact that a lot of signs and superstitions are associated with a wedding dress, you don’t need to get hung up on them too much. After all, there was a time when our ancestors simply went to the registry office or the village council in everyday clothes, and then lived happily ever after for decades.
If you think about something bad all the time, then this will certainly happen, so you don’t need to wind yourself up on the eve of the wedding in anticipation that at some point something unforeseen and unpleasant will definitely happen. Better to just relax and enjoy the upcoming holiday.
However, there are and sometimes they really work. For particularly suspicious brides, there are many rules for choosing a wedding dress.
What should be the perfect wedding dress
There is an old belief that a bride should have an item taken from someone close to her. The mother of the bride used to give the girl an embroidered handkerchief. Symbols were embroidered on the handkerchief that protected the bride from unkind looks. It is advisable to ask for some trinket from relatives or girlfriends, but in no case should you borrow a veil and gloves. It is necessary at the end of the wedding to return the borrowed little thing. It is advisable to borrow this thing from a girlfriend who is happily married.
The wedding dress must be brand new. After the wedding, no one can lend it. There is, according to which, someone else's wedding dress can attract family life other people's problems. A happy wedding dress can be an outfit that stores the energy of the family and is inherited from generation to generation. The wedding dress of a great-grandmother, who has been happily married for more than fifty years, can become a reliable amulet. True, it is difficult to find a family in Russia, where a great-grandmother's wedding dress is kept, which can be worn, so you need to buy an outfit for the upcoming celebration in a store. It is better to buy a simpler wedding dress than to rent a chic outfit.
True, when buying a wedding dress in a store, it is impossible to say with complete certainty that no one has ever worn it before. I personally know such a case when my friend’s mother worked as a salesperson in an elite wedding dress store and took a very beautiful outfit for her daughter for one day, which was then returned back to the salon and was purchased.
The ideal option is a custom-made wedding dress. In this case, you can be completely sure that no one has worn the outfit before, and it does not carry negative energy.
There is also a sign according to which a wedding dress cannot be sewn by the future bride herself or trust this business to close people and relatives.
The wedding dress should be long, as it means a long and happy family life.
An old English omen associated with the bride's attire
According to tradition, the bride must wear four things on her wedding day. One thing must be new, the second old, the third - blue and the fourth, borrowed from a friend. The new thing is a symbol new family where love, peace and harmony will reign; an old thing means the connection of the bride with the house, parents and family in which she grew up. The blue color symbolizes modesty and fidelity, and a thing borrowed means the bride's connection with friends, whose help and support she can always count on in difficult moments in her life.
How to buy a wedding dress
It is best to go with a company of close people. When trying on a dress, only those people in whose good attitude you can be 100% sure should help.
No need to take pictures of yourself in different outfits to compare later. Treat your wedding dress with due respect.
In the store, you need to try so that the future bride in a wedding dress is seen by as few strangers as possible.
The future bride herself does not have to pay for the purchase. The wedding dress before the celebration should be kept in the parental home.
No one, except the bride herself, should try on the purchased dress. Also, you can not put on the entire wedding dress completely and look in the mirror. For example, you can do the fitting in one glove.
What color should the wedding dress be?
Traditionally, a wedding dress should be white. White color symbolizes purity and light that will illuminate the future family life of the newlyweds. However, modern designers offer wedding dresses in various colors, and brides increasingly want to wear something unusual for a wedding.
A yellow wedding dress can attract quarrels and tears to the family, a red one - scandals and numerous strife. However, individual elements of red in a wedding dress or bridal bouquet portend good luck in marriage, the power of love and unquenchable passion.
Gold color attracts money to the family and symbolizes life in abundance. However, you should not marry in an all-gold dress. We are talking about individual elements of decoration.
A pink dress symbolizes deep pure love, but a white wedding dress is still ideal.
How to wear a wedding dress
Folk signs and superstitions say that you can not dress for a wedding on your own or with the help of your mother. The best thing to do is to ask your friends for help. It is they who should help the bride on this day.
On the hem of the wedding dress you need to pin a pin, head down. The pin will avert the eyes of envious people and neutralize negative energy.
The bride's wedding dress must be worn over the head.
How to wear a wedding dress during a celebration
On the day of the wedding, when the groom has already arrived at the bride's house, the young cannot be separated until the moment they are declared husband and wife. It is also impossible to allow guests to pass between them.
If the bride's dress is very fluffy skirt, which interferes with walking, the groom should in no case help his chosen one carry the hem. This should be done by the bridesmaid.
During the wedding ceremony, friends should not correct the bride's outfit. According to the existing sign, in this case they will interfere and spoil the family life of the spouses.
Popular folk signs about the bride's wedding dress
On the day of the wedding, the dress was torn - relations with the mother-in-law may not work out.
If a button flew off the bride's wedding dress, then frequent quarrels and strife in the family are possible. It is necessary to sew on a button that has flown off with two stitches to ward off trouble from the newlyweds. Incidentally, according to folk tradition, there should be an even number of buttons on the bride's wedding dress.
You can not show the groom in wedding attire before the wedding. It is believed that in this case, the wedding may not take place.
Wedding dress as a talisman
In our modern and developed society, there is still a large number of different signs and superstitions. One of the main wedding superstitions is that the groom should not see the bride's wedding dress until the wedding day. Why can't a girl and her future husband go to a bridal salon together and pick up a wedding outfit?
How did this wedding sign come about?
It is claimed that the sign existed in Ancient Rus' and migrated to our time from old Russian traditions. However, the period where and when this sign appeared remains unknown. But one thing has remained unchanged - this is the belief of most girls in this obsolete sign.
So is it possible for the bride to choose a dress together with the groom? Let's take a look at some of the pros and cons.
So, the arguments "against":
Marriage life will be unhappy, or not at all.
On this occasion folk omen clearly defines: in no case should the future spouse see, and even more so choose and buy a wedding dress for the bride. And it gives an idea of what can happen: expect trouble, the marriage will be short-lived, the wedding may be upset. After such definitions, any bride will want to play it safe and not take the groom with her to the bridal salon.
Sign in vain cannot exist.
Most grandmothers are sure that since the sign has come down to our days, this is not just. It has been tested by time, and by more than one generation of people, which means it has been confirmed. Smart people will not speak in vain. After all, it cannot be that, due to someone's stupidity, this sign was followed for so many years.
Relationship with the past.
Many believe that by observing signs and traditions, especially wedding ceremonies, they pay tribute to their ancestors, and they, in turn, strengthen the marriage union.
The thought is material.
According to this theory, the idea is firmly rooted in your subconscious that if the groom sees the wedding dress before the day of the celebration, expect trouble. If you really believe in this sign, you will see in everything only a confirmation of this thought, even without a reason.
The surprise effect.
Perhaps the strongest argument in favor of buying a wedding dress without the groom is the effect that can be produced on him by your luxuriously. After all, he has never seen you in such a chic image. This kind of surprise on your part, the groom will remember for a lifetime.
We hope that the arguments "Against" are more or less sorted out.
Now, as for the arguments "For":
Signs of the past.
In our constantly changing world, it is simply indecent to continue to believe in signs and superstitions. First of all, this concerns whether the bride can buy a wedding dress with the groom? Modern progress has stepped forward, and with it sciences such as philosophy and psychology, which have been able to explain why people still hold superstitious views.
wedding dress- the dream of two.
We are accustomed to the understanding that only the bride in her dreams presents her wedding dress, forgetting about the second half - the groom. Of course, a man will be happy to see his beloved girl next to him at the altar in any outfit. But he, like the girl, imagines the image of the future bride. Why not take it with you then. Give him the opportunity to participate, express his ideas and views on trying on wedding dresses. The groom's advice and opinion on choosing a dress can be very constructive and helpful. Choosing a dress with the groom can be quite an exciting adventure.
In a relationship, the choice of dress is not the main thing.
Any psychologist can explain that it does not matter whether the groom saw the dress or not, the main thing is the emerging feeling between two people, mutual understanding and patience with each other. Let's be realistic, a marriage union cannot fall apart because of signs. Destroy a marriage can: treason, assault, misunderstanding. And no need to blame someone or something, for example, a wedding dress. If you can't find common language with each other, the dress has nothing to do with it.
Religion denies superstition.
The Church denies any signs and superstitions, believing that they have passed to us from pagan culture. Therefore, first you need to determine what you believe in, in pagan superstitions or in church foundations.
In any case, the choice is always yours. We will be pleased if these arguments helped to understand and dispel doubts. Happy marriage!
What is shooting Love Story really (and what is it for)
Many photographers and videographers have a Love Story shooting service. But different performers can have completely different services! So what's the difference?
The fact is that everyone puts something of their own into the concept of shooting a “love story” and, having asked one photographer how much a love story costs and what it includes, it is quite possible that another photographer has a completely different perception of a love story, and this will be a completely different service. maybe even given to you as a gift.
Everyone knows that a love story is some kind of romantic couple shoot where you two are filmed before the wedding. There are actually a lot of types. I'll talk about the main ones. The simplest option is what is, as it were, replaced by the word "love story" - pre-wedding shooting. In fact, this is a wedding shooting rehearsal, which is done so that you, as a couple, get used to the photographer and videographer who will shoot you.
This is a small photo shoot. regular clothes. It can be filmed anywhere: in the park, on the street, etc. In general, where it will be beautiful light. Roughly speaking, it is done so that you see how the photographer works, understand what you will have to do on this shoot, what is different from a passport photo, so that the groom sees that it is not scary, and the bride understands that she, it turns out that it can turn out beautifully in photographs, and that the photographer can take it beautifully.
That is, it's just such a training photo session. But photos, if they are taken in advance, you can safely use when decorating your wedding: print them on invitations, magnets or posters, give away to guests, in general, anything. This is what is called a pre-wedding shoot, that is, a small rehearsal, rather short in time.
By the way, this year I give it as a bonus, but many photographers sell for extra money. Not the essence, the main thing is that you understand what it is. There is a Western tradition of pre-wedding photo shoots - this is, roughly speaking, pre-wedding photography in wedding suits, with hair, makeup - the way you will look at the wedding.
In the West, this often happens before the wedding, but because we have a tradition that the groom should not see the bride's dress until just before the day of the event. Therefore, we often shoot it after, because in the traditions of European weddings at a wedding, there is especially no time to carry out this large-scale photo shoot. Therefore, they do it in advance. When it's just a wedding, some Russian photographers can find such a service as After Wedding Photos. What it is? (continued in video)
The time before the wedding can hardly be compared with any other. It's all mixed up: smiles, tears, hugs, arguments. Everything is so saturated with emotions that it is not easy for future newlyweds to maintain peace of mind. Not only are they going to take the most important step in their lives, but they are also faced with the chores of organizing a celebration, arranging a future home, choosing wedding dresses, inviting guests, and much more. At the same time, you need to continue to go to work, take care of loved ones, do something around the house. The head is spinning from daily tasks and tasks, and the nerves are at the limit.
Isn't this the reason for the strange signs and prejudices associated with preparing for marriage and everything that has to do with it?
Yes, happiness is indeed very fragile, and it is so scary to lose it. So there are warning, prohibiting and other "horror stories", which, after a while, most people remember with a smile. Was it worth it to worry?
This dress is the most reverent attitude
Probably, more often than others, girlfriends retell each other the signs associated with a wedding dress. Nothing surprising! This outfit means so much to girls! He clearly demonstrates that she loves and is loved, that from now on there are two of them, and they will share all joys and sorrows in half.
There are so many expectations associated with it and they are all happy. And when, finally, this wonderful dress takes its place on the hanger in anticipation of the cherished minute, you absolutely don’t want someone else to touch it, and even more so - to try it on.
It is also quite understandable why the groom should not see the bride in a wedding dress before the wedding. She wants to appear before him in all her splendor. And he will have to admire her beauty and charm enough to remember this for many, many years.
All preliminary fittings and shows will deprive the newlywed of the opportunity to see the reflection of these feelings on the face of her chosen one, and the reference to some kind of trouble was invented “to divert eyes”
The question of whether to show the dress to her friends before the wedding or not to do this is up to each girl to decide on her own. Who knows her friends better than she does, and what can you expect from them? This moment received a negative connotation, probably because of the fear of “jinxing” one’s happiness, suffering from someone else’s envy.
Envy is indeed a very strong feeling that can spoil the mood and further relationships between people. But in the world many examples of sincere friendship, mutual support, when it was thanks to reliable friends that everything was arranged the best way. So know how to choose them, and you will not have to beware of unkind looks.
There are many warnings associated with the process of acquiring a wedding dress. Especially a lot of disagreement sounds about whether it is possible to buy a wedding dress in advance, that is, before the official engagement took place. This is an extraordinary act and a bold step. Not every girl dares to dare him. But there are situations when people at first sight understand that they have found a soul mate, that their feelings are mutual and their “disclosure” is only a matter of time. Then why not?
Another thing is if there is not even a candidate for grooms in mind, but you just want to get married. Then there is no need to rush. By the time such decoration is needed, both the fashion and the figure of the future bride, and her preferences, may change. As for the assertion that a rash purchase will harm future happiness there is no objective evidence for this. No one has ever kept such statistics, so to believe or not to believe in it is your own choice.
Roughly the same applies to doubts about whether an unmarried girl can wear a wedding dress. See how the girl reacts to this. Sometimes your own fears can create such an internal blockage that it is not easy for positive change to break through. But there is also a belief that, according to signs, trying on a wedding dress for an unmarried girl is for an early marriage. Is there a tradition of catching bridal bouquet thrown at random by the bride at the end of the evening. The one who catches him will find personal happiness within a year.
By the way, it is in this case that one can recall the exact opposite sign. According to one of the superstitions, the newlywed should not release the bouquet from her hands throughout the wedding day, and then put it in her bedroom, then everything will be fine with her. Even better - dry a few flowers as a keepsake and store them until the end of your days. Such a souvenir, they say, will become a talisman of the family. But mutual love and the ability to cherish a partner will save her from troubles much more reliably, and there is no need to “preserve” or “dry” them.
Wedding bouquet in the hands of the bride
Is it possible to choose a wedding dress with the groom?
Sometimes the question arises, who should buy a wedding dress: the bride or the groom? There can be no single answer here. If the future spouse is a successful and wealthy person, he will gladly take all the expenses on himself. The dress, like the rings, the girl will go to buy with the groom. And you should not expect anything negative if the groom saw a dress, shoes or gloves before the wedding.
If only he looked at the bride with love! On that very cherished day, she will still look different, and he will fully feel it.
If the young couple still mainly relies on their parents, they solve this problem and determine what the bride's attire should be, and how much each party should share in the expenses.
Of course, there may be different traditions on this score. So in the USA, for example, payment of all wedding expenses without discussion is assigned to the father of the bride. In France, the festive dinner at which the engagement is announced is paid for by the bride's parents, and the wedding celebration is paid for by both related families. In the UK, at the request of the heroes of the celebration, a wedding rehearsal is held with seating guests and even toasts. As for shopping for wedding dresses, here everything is decided by the personal relationship of the future spouses.
Some superstitious persons suggest the danger in seeing yourself in a mirror in a wedding dress. But how then to determine what really suits you, how to find out if everything is done with the proper quality? Is it better to see your reflection in the mirrors of the Wedding Palace and be upset because everything was different in your dreams?
The bride looks at herself in the mirror before the wedding
Not so long ago, the unshakable and indestructible rule was to dress the bride in snow-white attire. Everything else, at best, looked suspicious and caused gossip. But modern girls masterfully dealt with this prejudice. They go down the aisle not only in, and outfits, but also, steel, brown and even.
The example of the American movie star Sarah Jessica Parker, who appeared at the wedding in a black wedding dress, became a textbook and found many followers
What the color of the bride's dress should certainly be according to signs, if you get married a second time, history is silent. But traditionally he could be more modest and reserved. And the veil was not worn a second time. She symbolized the special purity and innocence of the young newlywed, which was not expected in remarriage.
Today it is a beautiful and delicate attribute of a wedding dress, which can only be worn for this ceremony. And although stylists now offer many ways to decorate a girl's head: flowers in her hair, a headband or hat with a veil, a cape with a hood, a spectacular scarf, many brides remain committed to the classic veil.
This elegant dress to the floor it will be possible to put on more than once at ceremonial exits or to the theater, but a veil cannot be.
Observation or superstition?
It is clear that everything in the world does not happen by chance, and any statements grow from observations and generalizations. But today's reality is such that even proven by centuries weather signs "work" far from always, the world around us has changed so much.
Once upon a time festive clothes was of considerable value, especially among the people, and a spoiled outfit foreshadowed serious “showdowns” with older family members. But to promise problems with the mother-in-law to a modern girl, whose wedding dress, according to signs, was torn during the celebration, is at least strange.
It is also considered unfavorable, according to a sign, to sell a wedding dress. This, they say, can provoke a divorce. But if one were to seriously set out to find out the fate of all the couples whose wedding dresses were sold through Internet sites or consignment stores, they would be surprised to find that the percentage of failed marriages does not exceed the national average. And certainly no one heard that someone called the sale of wedding decorations the reason for the breakup.
What can we say about the ban on being photographed in a wedding dress! Millions of newlyweds capture their happy day in dozens of photos, and then look at them with pleasure many years later.
Wise people say: The thought is material. Good thoughts are realized through good deeds and events, while negative ones attract anxieties and sorrows. If we are looking for signs related to the wedding, then only good ones.
December 16, 2017, 13:08
Have you told your friends that you are getting married? Get ready, now a flurry of tips and warnings will fall upon you. You will learn so many wedding signs that if you follow everything, then the holiday will turn into a terrible minefield. Even if you are not superstitious, at least a couple of them will sink into your soul. Some beliefs have been formed for hundreds of years, some for several decades, but, as a rule, each is explained logically. We took eight popular signs, dived into history and found simple reasons for their occurrence. Debunking the myths!
Wedding sign: you can not see the bride in a dress before the ceremony
First, before the wedding you can not see the bride. This prejudice arose from a long tradition of banning young people from dating before marriage. Previously, most marriages in Rus' were not made out of love, but under duress. Parents agreed on a profitable party, deciding for the children, they did not have the right to vote. The wealth and class of the future spouse were considered important. Often the bride and groom never saw each other until the wedding. Parents were afraid that they would not like each other, and one of the young would run away. By the way, in support of this tradition, a veil also appeared - the bride's face was closed until the moment the young spouses were announced, then the groom opened the face of the betrothed and, finally, saw her.
Secondly, before the wedding, you can’t show the dress to anyone. The reason for the superstition is practical - in the past, a wedding dress was considered part of the dowry, for which they chose the most expensive fabric and jewelry that the family could afford. It was risky to show such a jewel, it could have been stolen. So they hid the dress until the wedding.
Wedding omen: the bride's shoes must be worn
Few families in Rus' could afford to sew a ceremonial pair of shoes for the bride. Most sometimes had nothing to walk in every day, so more or less elegant shoes were passed from one girl to another, throughout the village. This wedding sign is also the wisest - new shoes can rub your leg and spoil your mood, but it’s comfortable in a worn leg.
Wedding omen: you can't get married on a leap year
It is believed that a family created in a leap year will not be happy. There are different explanations of belief, we tell the most interesting. Many centuries ago, the leap year was considered the year of brides, who themselves could choose a husband. Moreover, the poor man did not have the right to refuse if matchmakers came to him. It turns out that at least one person married against his will - such unions were very rarely happy.
Wedding sign: getting married in May is just toiling
Our practical ancestors came up with this sign in order not to interfere with spring work in the fields. May is the traditional sowing time, when the foundation for the future harvest was laid. Most families ate what they had grown, did not sow the land on time - left relatives without food for a year. Weddings were played for two or three days, or even a week. After such a celebration, it was necessary to recover, it also took more than one day. So it turned out that several weeks were spent along with the preparation, to do this in May meant dooming the family to starvation.
Wedding sign: a holiday on Krasnaya Gorka - fortunately
Wedding omen: rain at the wedding will bring happiness
To explain this wedding sign, we again return to our ancestors - otherwise, almost all customs came from those times. Rain for the Slavs was a blessing, he gave life and harvest. Droughts led to famine, so the whole family rejoiced at the rain. Hence the opinion that rain for a wedding is fortunate.
Wedding sign: you can not give to measure wedding rings
Since ancient times, the ring has been considered a talisman that protects the owner from illness and misfortune. The amulet belonged to him, accumulated energy, becoming one with him. Let someone try on your ring - break the connection with him by letting a third one into it. Wedding rings are the same amulets, they protected the family from strife and troubles. Give to try on wedding ring meant to significantly weaken the protection.
Wedding sign: parents are not allowed to attend the celebration
There are several reasons for the belief, we like the one that refers to the custom of forced marriages mentioned above. In 1724, Peter the Great issued a decree in which it was forbidden to force couples to marry. Before the wedding, the priest had to make sure that the intentions of the future spouses were voluntary, and their parents were required to take an oath, swearing that they did not force the children to marry. In practice, this was not respected, so some settlements forbade parents from attending the wedding. Such a step allowed the young to refuse an unwanted marriage without the pressure of relatives.
It becomes uncomfortable. Remembering a common superstition, the bride is almost sure that your marriage will not be happy. Although, on the other hand, deep down, something arouses suspicion: is it really all true? After all, other ancient wedding signs and superstitions do not cause you such anxiety. Can I show the groom a wedding dress or is it still not? What is the right thing to do in such a situation? The website www.site will tell.
How did the omen come about?
A sign that claims that the groom cannot see the bride's dress before the wedding appeared in Ancient Rus' and was allegedly tested on specific cases. But we won’t be able to find out these “true” stories, because no one remembers them for a long time. However, according to the sign, if the groom saw the bride in a wedding dress, the marriage will be short-lived, weak, and there is even a chance of a break in relations even before the ceremony. It sounds so intimidating that even non-superstitious girls do not dare to take such a step and diligently make sure that their future husband does not see the wedding dress in any case. Although the church strongly rejects such signs and beliefs. The same opinion is shared by psychologists who believe that only our own fears and complexes become the culprits of all problems.
Let's try to sensibly assess this situation and understand whether it is worth hiding the dress from the groom or still takes it calmly.
Do not show the wedding dress to the groom
- If the bride is very superstitious, then there is no need to make yourself nervous again. Let it be better for you to be calm, because there will be plenty of pre-wedding troubles. They will make you feel quite excited. And, despite the temptation to show your favorite dress, do not do it. Your nerves and peace of mind are much more valuable.
- The most weighty argument is that the dress will be a pleasant surprise for the groom. Just imagine: your future husband will see you in a beautiful dress, with a delightful wedding hairstyle, perfect makeup. This unforgettable moment will remain in his memory forever. That is why a sufficiently large number of brides do not show their outfit to men in order to surprise and amaze them on the day of the celebration.
Show the wedding dress to the groom
- If you lived together before the wedding for a long time, then hiding the dress from the groom will not be easy. Perhaps there is nowhere to hang it, and the bride's parents live in another city (you can't bring it to them either). And, as you know, in order for the dress to straighten before the celebration, it needs to hang in a spacious place. In this situation, you will not be able to hide it.
- Demonstrate the dress if you do not believe in omens and they have become relics of the past for you. Then this is not a reason at all, because of which it is worth being nervous and worried.
- Some grooms want to be involved in the wedding dress selection process. Though rare, it does happen. And it is also possible that your loved one is the best adviser for you. And you just can't decide which dress to buy or rent without his help.
There may be many pros and cons, but you will have to decide this issue yourself. However, the wedding portal www.. They believe that marriages do not break up because the bride showed her dress to the groom. Families fall apart from distrust, betrayal, misunderstanding. Therefore, the main thing is to believe in the sincerity of your relationship, and then no superstitions can interfere with you.