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The popular American business coach Steve Sebold, who specializes in coaching for sales professionals, has published a book on the psychological differences in the behavior of people of different income levels. More precisely, many years of experience in observing society allowed the coach to find out how the thinking of a rich person differs from the way of thinking of an individual living "from paycheck to paycheck."
"The average person is zombified by the thesis that rich people are either lucky or dishonest characters (which is why enrichment is considered something shameful in the lower strata of the population). Wealthy people know that wealth - although it does not guarantee happiness - does life is much easier and more enjoyable," Business Insider quotes from Siebold's book, How the Rich Think.
One of the most remarkable differences in the thinking of the rich and the poor is as follows: "The poor believe that self-confidence is a disadvantage. The rich believe that it is an advantage".
"The rich are distinguished by the fact that they always strive to make themselves personally happy, do not suffer from false modesty and do not pretend that they want to save the world ... Well, really, if you do not save yourself first, how can you help others?" - comments the author of the book.
"The poor are fixated on the past. The rich think about the future". “Millionaires who built their fortune from scratch achieved success because they looked ahead and thought about how to make their dreams come true. Those who are sure that the best in life is in the past are extremely rarely able to achieve something, as they often suffer from depression," says Steve Siebold.
"Poor people earn a living working at jobs they don't like. Rich people earn a lot because they do a lot of what they love."
“It may seem to the average person that wealthy people are forced to plow around the clock to maintain the source of their wealth. In fact, the rich, as a rule, do what they love, having found a way to make money on it. But, for example, the middle class is looking for a job, in order to hate it later - from childhood a person is taught that work and earning money must necessarily be accompanied by great emotional and physical efforts, "the writer notes.
Another interesting difference in the mindset of the rich and the poor is, according to Steve Sebold, that the chronic "poor, fearing disappointment, set the bar lower for everything. What sets the potential rich man apart is that he always aims for more" .
“Psychologists often advise their clients not to have excessively high hopes and not to demand the impossible, so as not to be disappointed later. But you will never achieve something, including wealth, if you have not dreamed about it,” notes Steve Siebold.
"To get rich, you need to do something special, the poor think. The rich think differently: to get rich, you need to be someone special." “As long as the gray masses are concentrated on the same work and its momentary result, individual individuals analyze their experience and learn to benefit even from mistakes. No wonder everyone likes the story of Donald Trump so much: he lost all his millions, got into a debt hole, but got out of it even richer than before," the author of the book comments.
"The poor teach their children how to survive. The rich teach their children how to be rich". "Children from wealthy families from an early age are taught that there are two types of people - rich and poor," - says Steve Siebold. He admits that he has heard a lot of criticism on this point. For example, accusations of "elitism". But the author of the book stands his ground: “Such children learn to look at society objectively, to see it for what it is. If a child realizes early what wealth is, he is more likely to strive for it in the future.
"Poor people tend to save money. Rich people tend to earn it.". The average person, according to Steve Sebold, constantly saves money in reserve, denies himself a lot in order to meet the family budget, so that he never has the money or the physical ability to do anything more. But a person who is able to achieve success is distinguished by the fact that he, the author of the book believes, is always aimed at new achievements and new money.
In total, Steve Sebold identified 21 differences in the way of thinking of the rich and the poor. If the author's theses are rephrased, focusing on the specifics of the thinking of the rich, then it will turn out to be practically a "collection of tips" for those who do not lose hope of becoming rich one day. The most interesting of the above not mentioned characteristics of rich people are as follows:
"The rich do not get hung up on getting education and diplomas. They prefer to focus on obtaining the special knowledge and skills they need", and "The rich tend to spend their free time on increasing this knowledge, and not on empty entertainment", "Money does not cause rich in emotions, they are perceived as a tool to achieve a goal.
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Well, if you so desire, then here is a list of my positive affirmations.
Everything works out great for me. Every day I enjoy life.
I am very lucky. I am always lucky in everything. I attract success.
I can do anything and I'm not afraid of anything.
Everything is possible if I want it.
I believe in my lucky star.
My life is beautiful and getting better and better.
I am overwhelmed with energy and joy of life.
Everything is easy and simple for me.
My health is great....:))
Tell me, Shura, honestly, how much money do you need to be happy? asked Ostap. - Just count everything.
- One hundred rubles, - Balaganov answered, regretfully looking up from bread and sausage (c)
In order for money to love you, you need to take the first step and also sincerely love money. So who doesn't love them, you might object. However, the point is that most people love money in terms of scarcity, not abundance. Often the very thought of money causes so many negative emotions, such a strong sense of inferiority and discomfort that money begins to avoid a person!
Egor - a wonderful, intelligent young man, who has a wonderful and necessary specialty for people as a massage therapist - drags out a completely beggarly existence. He receives a penny for his hard work, allowing employers to literally rip him off. At the same time, he often says that he is familiar with many rich people who have a lot of problems, and that he would never change places with them.
Once, in a conversation, I heard the following phrase from him: “Maybe I don’t need money at all? I'm fine as it is".
With all my sympathy for Yegor, I have to note that he is a typical example of a person who professes the psychology of poverty. Until he changes his attitude towards money and no longer values himself and his time, his income will remain at the same low level.
Money loves those who really love it.
For example, some people, when they find themselves in an expensive store filled with beautiful things, instead of discussing the merits of, say, a luxury car, they begin to look for flaws in it, irritated at the thought that they cannot afford to buy it.
Irritation builds up, transferred to the world of wealth in general, and as a result, people leave the store in a state of extreme frustration. A familiar picture, isn't it? If only they knew that this behavior literally pushes money away from them. In the Universe, there is an “impression” that money causes exclusively negative emotions in these people, and if so, then, of course, money begins to avoid them!
PRACTICAL LESSONS
Money Raising Exercise
Open wallet. Look at it with fresh eyes, as if from the outside. What does he say about you? Do the bills lie there, carefully sorted by value, or are they crumpled, crumpled and mixed? There are no trifles when it comes to money. Money is a very strong energy, and they are very fond of care and care. Don't forget about it. Make it a rule every day to put your wallet in order, smooth out all the crumpled bills, lay them out according to their value and one (front) side to you. During this pleasant procedure, stroke your money, say kind words to them and end this “money massage” with an affirmation like:
My income is constantly growing;
Money loves me;
I attract more and more money to me.
This is me, briefly))
Immediately I propose to understand wealth as not only a big house, a beautiful car and a successful business. This is definitely important. But good relations in the family, five children and the opportunity to work only three hours a day are also important to me, so that the rest of the time I can admire my beautiful wife.
I determined for myself the main criterion of wealth and satisfaction with life - so that I would not want to ask for anything from a goldfish. Now I would let her go back to the sea without extorting the three wishes.
Even 10-15 years ago my family lived in poverty. A car loan, a job that came in after dark and left after dark. A wounded wife - she then looked much worse than now. Eternal moving to rented apartments.
There is no secret, everything is like in nature - strong animals live better than weak ones. To be a tiger or a rabbit - the choice is obvious. Therefore, in my life every day I chose paths, actions or actions that strengthened me. And also, whenever possible, he refused those that weakened.
I'll start with friends and envy
If you are jealous, you lose your power. If you are envied, you eat, take away someone else's strength.
During that difficult period, I saw how my best friends became more successful and richer every year. They bought new foreign cars, went on vacation abroad and dined in expensive restaurants. From time to time they invited me and my wife to visit and generously treated us. And my dull life then set unsolvable tasks for our family. For example, how to arrange two kids in a budget kindergarten for free and without a queue? How to pick them up from there at the prescribed 18:30, if the wife works until 19:00, and I work until 20:00?
Then every meeting with friends took place for me under the slogan "I'm a complete loser." They treated me to cognac for 5,000 rubles per bottle, and I didn’t have money for a taxi to get home from another friendly party. In order to stop getting emotionally hurt, I decided to temporarily cut off contact with some of my friends. And it saved me a lot of energy. I no longer feel like a perpetual loser.
Wealth is in order, thanks to charging
Everyone knows that sports give beauty and health, but I do sports for someone else. I feel that it is especially important for the work of a manager.
Once I got a job as a small boss in a newspaper with a staff of only 10 people. Some of the staff were older and more experienced than me. There was discord in the team, my orders were challenged, often they were simply ignored. Then I accidentally started going to the gym and noticed that within 1-2 days after my training, for some reason, my subordinates were not stupid and were afraid to fight with me. Apparently, some natural vibrations appeared in the voice, people caught this force and obeyed without a creak.
After a couple of days, this effect weakened, I had to go to the gym again. Since then, no matter how busy my schedule has been, I have been training three times a week. It happens that I go to training at 7 in the morning, and then I go to work. Moreover, it doesn’t matter what sport you do, as long as it’s up to a sweat and without passes. Thanks to the gym, I became a “strong” manager.
About women's sports
My wife is forty, she has given birth to five children and does not manage anyone. But the desire to charge her batteries makes her diligently take care of herself. Every week she runs 20 kilometers, sheds sweat for hours on fitness. Even when she went pregnant, Tanyusha always looked great. My wife is a witch. She feeds on the energy of the surrounding men and women who give her sincere compliments. This saturates her with feminine power, which she brings to the family and distributes between her husband and children. Such compliments are worth sweating.
Since we're talking about women
Behind every success of a man there is always a woman's support. When we were poor, my wife never doubted her choice and my potential. A woman is the most powerful nourishment, a source of male power. With words, care and patience, Tanyusha filled me to the brim. (Thank you, love). And in the evening I returned home finished. She took me in and repaired. With a jack and other levers, it raised my ever-falling self-esteem.
If you are unlucky with your wife, I can reassure you. I didn't have much luck with her either. For the first years of her life together, she did not know how to feed and charge me. And then by trial and error gradually learned. How? Ask her better. An important criterion for evaluating that your wife is of high quality is the difference in the states of her husband when entering and leaving the house. If in the morning you leave your woman dead, then she did not charge you.
Therefore, everything acquired in the family is definitely an achievement of both partners. Although my Tanyusha has been on maternity leave for the last 11 years, without her support I would not have earned myself even a good steak, which, by the way, is also an important source of strength.
About alcohol
In my opinion, alcohol gives our body pleasure, helps us deal with stress. Builds bridges between people or adds courage. But these values have to be paid with the loss of power.
One day, eight years ago, while analyzing my condition for a week, I realized that every Friday and Saturday I had a drink with friends, and the following Sunday, Monday, and Tuesday I slowly recovered from a fun weekend. It turned out that five days a week out of seven I was out of condition, thirty percent effective. That is, he was a strong leader at work and a good husband in the family only on Wednesday and Thursday.
Once the moment came when I realized that my boring life was not in full swing, but sour with a swamp, and I decided to completely quit alcohol. Five years, not a drop in your mouth, even on holidays. During this period, I became unrealistically strong energetically, like a flying steam locomotive, the charisma of a leader manifested itself in me. Thanks to this, my wife and I realized an old dream - we moved to live south, from Perm to Rostov (That's how it was).
I also had the strength to leave a hired job in a publishing house and build an enterprise with partners with small branches in 15 million-plus cities. These were Butterfly Parks and petting zoos. We made a powerful leap, because I needed to invest somewhere an additional 70 percent of the energy that appeared due to the rejection of alcohol.
I confess that in the last two years I have returned to a mode of moderate friendship with beer and wine. That is, I absolutely do not drink for eight months of the year, and for the remaining four summer months I sometimes allow myself to have fun with bikers, hooligan friends and relatives. At the same time, I am aware that the flying locomotive slows down significantly because of this.
By the way, I quit smoking earlier. Not because of health, but because of the persecution of smokers by society. As soon as they began to ban smoking in offices, buildings and on the porches, I felt disgraced. After all, I used to smoke in the office, at home, everywhere. Now I had to bother - how to get to a safe place as soon as possible in order to drag on.
A lot of energy was spent precisely on the fight against the outside world, which tuned in against tobacco smoke. I constantly met sour mines of adherents of a healthy lifestyle, trying to educate me. As soon as I quit smoking, the useless struggle with progressive humanity ended, and I immediately became much stronger.
Sleep is a source of strength
A person who does not get enough sleep is half weakened energetically and physically. He feels it himself and everyone around him. Therefore, every evening I go to bed strictly at 23:00 with the most boring and useless book about some kind of personal growth. And at 23:01 I already sleep deafly. But at 5:30 I myself, without an alarm clock, wake up, process corporate mail, read, write, study. These valuable two morning hours of conscious living alone, when family members are still sleeping, are very energizing.
Fresh and rejoicing in a new day, at 7:30 I plunge into a crazy world with the delivery of five children to kindergarten-sections. In a furious race for the affairs of the big city. But always slept, so strong and pleased with himself.
How much rest do you need to recharge?
Once upon a time, my wife and I made mistakes, investing small remnants of family money in hackneyed Turkey and Egypt. We usually come back from an all-inclusive vacation upset, not wanting to sink back into the dreary routine.
Once we were very lucky - the vacation began, but the money ran out. Enough only for pasta by the fire and gasoline to the nearest sea. It turned out not even salty - Azov. For twenty days with three children, we lived in a tent on a deserted beach, where besides us, crazy surfers hung out. We were twice blown into the sea by the wind and flooded during a storm. It was the best and cheapest vacation in my life. It cost only 25 thousand rubles, including the cost of gasoline Perm - Dolzhanka - Perm. After this rest, I was able to show miracles of unsinkability at work and get out of any difficult situation.
For ten years now, every summer, our family has been traveling with tents around our vast homeland. Once a year, I definitely go alone to extreme tours such as climbing Elbrus. Or on a motorcycle along the Great Silk Road.
After all, a vacation at a resort in a hotel does not charge you with strength and, as an investment of time and money, is absolutely useless.
How to crawl out of a dull life when an eternally dissatisfied wife saws you? When younger children are sick and cannot go to kindergarten. And the elders come from school with deuces and remarks? When your boss squeezes the last juice out of you and changes the rules of the game every time, trying to outsmart. When there is nowhere to live and there is always not enough money? When did a dream never come true?
I will answer - you need to continuously bring into your life the actions and habits that make us stronger. It doesn't cost anything. Often it's just a matter of choice or discipline. At the same time, it is important to give up everything that weakens us. Then if a lucky bird flies nearby, we will have enough dexterity and strength to grab it by the tail.
Often people with almost the same abilities have only one difference: some are rich, while others are poor. Why is this happening? Why are you poor if you are so smart? Scientists have found the answer to this question. In order to become rich, talent and energy are not enough, experts have found the main ingredient of success.
Rich and poor
All the wealth in the world is distributed according to the scheme "80 to 20": that is, 80 percent of the wealth belongs to only 20 percent of the living people. It turns out that the fortune of eight people in total is equal to the income of 3,800,000,000 of the poorest inhabitants of the planet, reports Rusbase.
There is an opinion that the more talented and active a person is, the richer and more successful he is. Allegedly, financial literacy and the right investments will help you become millionaires. The problem is that skills and talents are evenly distributed among all people. For example, the average IQ is 100, but no one has an IQ of 1,000 or 10,000. Some people work more than others, but no one works thousands of times more hours than others. The only difference is that with approximately equal IQ and time spent at work, some get 10 thousand rubles, while others get millions.
How do people become successful?
To answer this question, scientists have created a computer model of human talent and how people use their skills. Everything turned out to be very simple: the richest are not the most talented. They are the luckiest.
In their computer model, scientists have created thousands of people with different levels of intelligence and income. The program was supposed to demonstrate whether the smartest will become the richest in forty years. As it turned out, this did not happen with any of the most "promising" characters, even after thousands of cycles of the model.
The researchers concluded that maximum success never coincides with maximum talent, and vice versa. You are not poor because you are stupid or untalented. You're just out of luck.
Hello my dear readers and guests of the blog! Have you ever wondered why some people are lucky with money, while others are not. Why are some people rich and others poor? Where does this inequality come from? Usually, attitudes towards poverty are laid down in a child in childhood. He observes the behavior of parents and listens to their opinion. Some people are convinced that they cannot earn much money, that they can get it either by criminal means or by hard work. They do not like everything, everything is seen as deceit and fraud. Even if they improve the standard of living by providing everything they need, they will find a way to find a flaw and complain again.
For example, when asked by a lonely young man why he does not marry, he replies that women only need wealthy men with a good car. If you give it to him, then after a while he will talk about poor work and housing. In this case, a person simply does not want to work, achieve something in life and get out of the financial hole.
Why are some people rich and others poor?
To solve problems with money and stop being a beggar, you need to change your attitude to life. Stop waiting for miracles and start creating them yourself. You should start right now, from this moment, otherwise it will be too late later.
You should not look for easy ways to get money and make a quick profit, as a rule, this entails only one trouble. For example, playing in a casino, selling prohibited goods, etc. It's a slippery slope.
In life, there is no universal way how to get rich. Everyone comes to this on their own. One of the most important conditions for a successful life is to find a business that you would like to do and focus on it. It's so nice to work on what you like and earn money from it. Of course, it's easy to say this, there are few people who know what they want and how to achieve it.
Wealthy people, unlike the poor, are constantly in a state of mental stress. They make sure that the system they have created functions normally. People with the psychology of poverty are willing to work on the principle of "work and forget."
If a person does not have the desire to open his own business, this does not mean that he will be a poor loser. There are many excellent people in their profession who reach impressive heights in their careers, and there are plenty of examples of business failures. The most important thing in a person is the desire to earn money, and the desire to work.
The main signs of the psychology of poverty
In order to determine what type of consciousness you belong to, analyze your attitude to life and determine if you have the following signs of poor thinking:
- greed and covetousness
Money is to be earned, not saved. It is surprising that the majority of young people are engaged in running around the authorities, seeking a meager reduction in utility bills, looking for cheaper things. In the time they spend queuing and chasing cheap groceries, they could not make much more money than they saved. Finances do not like to be kept, stockpiled and carefully saved. They love freedom and reasonable attitude. It will be much more productive to take them to the bank or invest in some business than to keep them at home in a stocking.
- feeling sorry for oneself
All people experience certain difficulties, few people are now easy. If you think that you are the most unhappy, and it is the hardest for you compared to others, then this is an erroneous opinion. Self-pity leads to selfishness, selfishness and self-destruction. Pull yourself together, stop harassing friends and relatives, believe me, they live no easier than yours.
- work for money
If you go to work only for the sake of money, then this is the wrong approach to gaining financial well-being. Aversion to work causes a state of depression and hopelessness. If you are waiting for Friday evening with pleasure, and with fear of Monday morning, then think about changing your place of work. Currently, employers welcome enterprising workers, and if you try to sit out from call to call and go home faster, then this is not particularly welcomed by the authorities.
- success and financial well-being are synonyms
These are not always synonyms, of course, there is truth in this, however, there are any number of examples when people, being rich, are very unhappy. But that doesn't mean you shouldn't strive for it. To achieve it, you need to work, engage in self-education and avoid stagnation.
- Difficulties in planning expenses
If you spend more than you get, you fit into, then you definitely need to do something about it. Start by planning your expenses. There are many techniques that allow you not to spend too much and even save a certain amount for a rainy day. Then you can think about looking for additional income or a higher paying job.
- envy and comparison
Stop envying others, considering them more successful. If you feel your own failure, then act to improve the quality of life. Perhaps, at the time when they were earning money, you were resting and living measured and calm.
- constant whining and complaining about life
Usually people who love take the position of a victim. They like it when they are sorry, they try to help. They are in the center of attention and care. However, if you try to correct the situation, help them, then having received what they want, they will find flaws in this as well. Don't be afraid to experiment. It's okay if you don't succeed the first time, you need to fight to the victory. Remember the legendary group "The Beatles", they turned to 20 recording studios and they were refused everywhere. However, they did not give up and they were lucky, some small company drew attention to them, which later brought them great success and fame.
- focus only on your problems
This property is for those who constantly feel sorry for themselves. People are so focused on their own problems that they are not interested in anything else. They withdraw into themselves, talk to few people, considering others to be universal evil. They are afraid to decide to do something and expect a miracle from life. To gain financial well-being, it is necessary to communicate with other people, delve into the affairs of the family and relatives. They need you, and you need them.
- dissatisfaction with the leaders
This is a favorite way to shift all your problems onto someone else, the government, bosses, etc. They believe that life is better somewhere else, and that someone else is to blame for being poor and unhappy. Stop criticizing because you will be annoyed and offended, nothing will change. Get busy and make the most of your time.
- the desire to get everything in an instant
Reach gradually. In life, it rarely happens that wealth falls on your head in an instant. To achieve it, you need to work hard and constantly think about how to extract additional profit. For those who want everything and immediately open only one way - criminal. But he hasn't done anyone any good yet.
Three types of human thinking
Among people according to the type of thinking can be divided into three types:
- victims
These are personalities of the whining type, who are always unlucky in everything. They can only criticize, but they themselves are afraid to do or decide anything. They prefer to work for the owner in order to bear less responsibility.
- organizers
People who clearly imagine the schemes of how to make money. Usually they know a lot and work hard. They are constantly in a state of nervous tension and bear great responsibility. They have an active life position and they believe that success in life can be achieved only through their work. They often employ people with a victim-like attitude.
- lucky ones
These individuals perceive life as it is. They complain little and do not work until they lose their pulse. They are optimistic about the future and are happy with what they have. Often they are lucky in life, and they achieve a lot. This is the last stage in the development of the personality, when it has already passed the stage of the victim and the owner. Such people are usually rich, successful, but at the same time kind and not offended by life.
Change your attitude to the process of making money. The poor man's reasoning is to go and earn the right amount. And the reasoning of the rich is aimed at coming up with a methodology for how to get a stable income. At the same time, the poor begin to work for such people according to a scheme invented by them.
Now you know why some people are rich and others are poor. The psychology of poverty is quite simple. It all depends on your mindset and attitude. Be rich! See you soon!