Does your child believe in Santa Claus?
The child lives a fabulous worldview. The whole world is a miracle for him. Until a certain age, he does not understand the laws by which this world exists, and in his mind everything happens in a magical way. The destruction of faith in Santa Claus is one of the first clashes with the adult world, with a harsh reality where there is no place for a fairy tale.
New Year is not just a feast with friends and relatives, not a birthday when a gift is given to only one birthday person, this is the most fabulous and magical holiday for adults and children. Multi-colored balloons, garlands, pre-holiday fuss, preparing gifts for loved ones - all this charges with positive emotions.
I remember, I was about five years old, when Santa Claus knocked at our apartment on New Year's Eve! He had a red fur coat, a white beard and, for some reason, a hat with earflaps. I was dumbfounded by the fact that he was able to make time to come to me specifically. Then I somehow told Grandfather a poem and received a well-deserved gift. After the door closed behind the guest and my mother went into another room, I looked out onto the landing to check if I had dreamed all this. What was my surprise when I saw Santa Claus enter the neighbor's apartment, because there were no small children there.
Not all parents support their kids' faith in Santa Claus. Some believe that one should not lie to a child - in any case, he will someday find out the truth and be very disappointed. Such parents don't want the child to doubt all the things they taught him when he grows up. Others believe that children should appreciate the efforts of their parents, who are trying to give something pleasant for the New Year and make their child happy. Does your child believe in Santa Claus? If he believes, do not destroy his childhood faith in a fairy tale.
The child lives a fabulous worldview. The whole world is a miracle for him. Until a certain age, he does not understand the laws by which this world exists, and in his mind everything happens in a magical way. The destruction of faith in Santa Claus is one of the first clashes with the adult world, with a harsh reality where there is no place for a fairy tale. But it is precisely the childish faith in a miracle, that everything is possible, that all desires can be fulfilled, will protect your baby.
Do you remember how, as a child, barely opening your eyes on the morning of January 1, you rushed headlong under the Christmas tree to look for gifts? And marveled at the amazing perspicacity of the kind old man, who invariably brought what he wanted from year to year? Do you remember how you wrote a letter to Santa Claus, how you diligently learned the rhyme and counted the days left until the magical New Year's Eve? I remember. I also remember how I wondered and did not understand how Santa Claus manages to visit all the Christmas trees in the world in one night? How does he fit so many presents in his bag? Why is Santa Claus present at every matinee, and is he always different? I remember how I realized that my parents always put gifts under the Christmas tree, that Santa Claus is a fairy tale, kind and wonderful, in which I want to continue to believe in all my life. I also remember my friend Sveta, who was the last in the class to learn the bitter truth and for a long time did not want to agree with her, courageously enduring the ridicule of her classmates.
in the first year we did not call Santa Claus, in 2 Goa (just after our birthday) Santa Claus came to us !!! we were waiting for him for a very long time, we studied poetry ... we made wishes, BUT when we saw him, we were a little dumbfounded and called him to our beautiful Christmas tree and ... AS SOON AS YOU WANTED TO TELL A VERSE ... all our experiences turned into a hysterical roar ... she (my daughter) did not freak out, she I talked to him and touched him, everything is fine ... but as soon as I wanted to tell a verse, I fell into hysterics again ...
THIS YEAR FOR YEARS!! WE WERE ALSO WAITING FOR FATHER FROST!!! AND ALREADY EVERYTHING IS WELL THIS YEAR!!! she didn’t show much, but then we sang and danced, and recited poems !!!
YES WE BELIEVE IN SANTA FROST!!! AND WAITING FOR IT AGAIN!!
“You lied to me, Santa Claus does not exist!” How should a child answer such questions? Medialeaks spoke with practicing child psychologist Maxim Prokhorov from the Volkhonka Psychological Center about the importance of believing in miracles for both adults and children.
How important is faith in Santa Claus for a child? In miracles? What effect does this childish faith have on the future?
Belief in miracles is extremely important, even for adults it is sometimes very useful to believe in a miracle. Someone believes in supernatural things, someone in God. But that's not the point. The bottom line is that sometimes it is important to believe that there is a miracle, as it helps to move on. And the child generally lives a little bit in a different reality. He still has no boundaries between reality and the fictional world, they are blurred. And this is absolutely normal up to a certain age. The child is just learning to test reality, to understand where everything is. Therefore, Santa Claus is important and great, faith in him is faith in a miracle. Belief that there is someone who thinks about you for a whole year.
Many parents ask me the question of whether children should talk about Santa Claus, and why do it. I want to be honest with children, and I also want to be good parents, and the question of deception is increasingly hanging in the air. After all, the child sooner or later learns that Santa Claus is just an uncle with a cotton beard, and happiness will burst like a soap bubble.
Does your child believe in Santa Claus? Today my nine-year-old daughter asked me a question: “Is it true that there is no Santa Claus, but instead you and dad buy me gifts?” I was confused and asked her why she thinks so. it turned out that a girl from the class told Katya that there was no Santa Claus. Then I answered my daughter that Santa Claus exists for those who believe in him. The daughter was satisfied with the answer, adding that if the parents put gifts, the floor in her room would creak, and since she does not hear the creak on New Year's Eve, it means that this is Santa Claus. I myself do not remember at what age I found out that there is no Santa Claus. Now I think, maybe it was worth telling the child the truth? And in your opinion, at what age should a child learn that Santa Claus does not exist? leave your version in the comments at what age should a child learn that Santa Claus does not exist?
My eldest son also believed in Santa Claus for a very long time, up to 11-12 years for sure. And every New Year, my husband and I contrived to warm up his faith a little longer. Always after the chiming clock we opened the window and went outside to look at the fireworks, and when we came, the gifts were already under the Christmas tree. There was a moment when one of the classmates began to prove to everyone that the village of Moroz did not exist, the son came home and said that it turned out that the parents put gifts under the Christmas tree. But I couldn’t understand in any way how we had gifts under the tree, because we all leave together and come together! Well, it didn’t reach him in any way ... Well, so, we had to make the child believe in miracles again. And we came up with. I told my son to write a letter to D. Moroz, and said that I would send it myself. He wrote, we naturally read what he wanted, and he wanted the phone as we expected. We bought it, inserted a SIM card in advance, scored the neighbor’s number there and signed it as “Santa Claus” (of course, having agreed in advance with the neighbor).
Once we all believed in the existence of Santa Claus. However, this good-natured red-robed grandfather doesn't really exist. So why lie to your children when we teach them to always be honest? When should the truth be revealed and should a child be allowed to believe in Santa Claus?
Should your children be told the truth? Probably not worth it though. After all, kids live in their own semi-real, semi-magical world, in which there are many talking fairies, dogs, dragons, as well as ghosts and cartoon and comic book characters. The child's need for miracles is in some way a kind of protection from the outside world, the reality of which is very cruel. There is absolutely no reason to force children to *stand firmly on the ground* when they are still tiny. Do we deceive our baby when we read him a fairy tale or turn on cartoons for him?
Of course, adults find it hard to believe in the story of Santa Claus. But for children there is nothing strange and unusual in that that a bearded good man who lives in the sky, sometimes strolls in a sleigh pulled by deer, and in just one night can deliver gifts to all the children on the planet. To them, it seems as normal as little mice exchanging their lost milk teeth for a coin, or a wall clock scattering chocolates. And when a kid sees five Santa Clauses walking one after another on the street and is surprised, it is best to explain it to him like this: these are just people dressed for the holiday, but the real Santa Claus appears only when he sleeps.
You can continue to support children's faith in the New Year's character as long as it *works*. There are three situations that parents may encounter and in which they are already considering telling their child the truth:
- The kid is still quite small, and one of the older children told him that in fact there is no Santa Claus. If your child is very upset by this, then you can encourage him and say that some people simply do not believe in Santa Claus, but you believe in him. By continuing to observe this tradition, you will satisfy the curiosity of the baby.
- The child grew up a little and began to ask you questions - if the child is already inquiring, it means that he has good reasons for this, maybe he even understood everything himself. When this happens at the age of five or six, it is better, of course, to tell the truth. This will disappoint him a little, however, this option is much better if he feels like an idiot in a class where everyone has already stopped believing in Santa Claus.
- If a child older than six continues to believe in Santa Claus, then there is a danger that one day his comrades will laugh at him and treat him like a stupid, little child. In this case, he may be offended by you. Therefore, it is better to tell him in advance that people do not fly through the sky on a sleigh, do not descend into a chimney, etc. But, if he wants to believe in it a little more, then no one forbids him to do this. Let him know the truth and decide for himself whether to believe in Santa Claus in the depths of his soul or cross him out of his heart forever.
A long time ago in good old England there lived a great storyteller and zealous Catholic John Ronald Reuel Tolkien. He is known to our readers as the creator of The Hobbit and The Lord of the Rings, but the Professor was also a wonderful father. For many years he wrote a Christmas tale for his children - and this tale is called "Letters from a Christmas grandfather." Or, adjusted for translation adaptation, letters from Santa Claus. Letters from Santa Claus. Santa Claus (with your permission, I am adapting the translation for the Russian reader) writes to Tolkien's children about his life, difficulties and comical situations that happen to him and his assistant - a polar bear ... And the children believe that Santa Claus exists , write letters to him in response, and the tale does not end.
Why would a zealous Catholic, a true Christian like Tolkien, invent for children an old man living at the North Pole who gives gifts to children all over the world? Why was it impossible to say: the main miracle is the Nativity of Christ, and we give gifts in memory of those gifts that the Magi brought to the Infant Christ? And why, again and again, believing parents are embarrassed that Santa Claus comes to their believing children? Yes, and (among Orthodox Russians) a Christmas fast!
When my brothers and I were little, we always looked forward to separately - the New Year, and separately - Christmas. Our family is a believer, and therefore there was no special scope in the celebration of the New Year - this is a family holiday, cozy and, most importantly, fabulous. In the morning we jumped up and ran to the Christmas tree. And there, gifts were already waiting, on which there were notes: “Shure from Santa Claus”, “Steppe from Santa Claus”, “Dana from Santa Claus”. Once I asked a tricky question: why are the notes written in my father's handwriting? The brother immediately answered: Santa Claus handed over gifts to dad, and dad had already signed who what. I didn't have any doubts.
Why did my parents, believers who took us to church from childhood, need Santa Claus? After all, we were really looking forward to Christmas, with tears (I confess, in my case) we sought the right to go to the night service ... I remember that we had just begun to serve in the large cathedral of the Donskoy Monastery, it was terribly cold and during the service we ran to the chapel - warm up. So why was Santa Claus needed?
It seems to me that the answer to this question lies in several planes. First, the simplest - the child lives in society. As the classic said, it is impossible to live in society and be free from society. And if Santa Claus came to all his friends and gave gifts, but not to you, will the child's soul cope with internal resentment, with carefully suppressed disappointment? Or will he not fall into the other extreme - into pride beyond his age, they say, peers believe in Santa Claus, but I know that you can only believe in God?
Another reason is more complex and, it seems to me, more significant. A child needs a miracle... Do you remember in "Scarlet Sails"? “If a person wants a miracle, make him this miracle” ... The soul of a child longs for a miracle everywhere and in everything, therefore even very young children are able to freeze in front of a butterfly, express joy at the sight of a squirrel or a woodpecker, or interrogate with anxiety in their voice: “Grandma, rainbow - where is it from? For what? How?". The miracle of the Nativity of Christ is divine, and an adult person is hardly capable of fully capturing its greatness and significance for humanity. It is not for nothing that from year to year, from century to century, poets again and again experience and recreate the events in Bethlehem, and again, it seems, one more facet of the incomprehensible remains elusive. How to accommodate: God became incarnate in order to save man through his sufferings? But without all this logical chain, the miracle of Christmas will not be complete. It is for this that the Savior is born - to suffer for everyone (isn't that why many carols are filled with heartfelt sadness?). And it is worth telling an impressionable child that the Lord is born to save a person - how? - suffer, and the child can meet Christmas in tears (a real case!). So why not be a kind fairy-tale Santa Claus, who on the eve of Christmas gives a magical night with gifts, and on Christmas day nothing distracts from the holiday itself?
However, this is not the most important thing. And the main thing, I think, lies in the question, which should be asked more broadly. Why does a child need a fairy tale?
Why does a child need a fairy tale and belief in miracles (not Christian ones) at all? Why elves, Thumbelina, a fairy godmother, trees that talk, a journey to a magical land, a magic wand, and so on and so forth and so on?
There is a very touching episode in the old Soviet book "Personal Happiness". The girl Raisin is looking for elves, and the head of the kindergarten finds herself in a difficult situation: “She hesitated. She didn't know what to do. To say that there are no elves in the world at all?.. Is it necessary? Do the years of early childhood really last so long, when a fairy tale surrounds a person, when a fairy tale meets him at every step and daily interferes with his life? .. Is it necessary to hurry with revelations? It is amazing that the Soviet educator is in no hurry to expose - she understands that a person needs a fairy tale - in order to grow, dream, create, grow stronger. To overcome oneself, to help others, to give joy. To reconcile in oneself the joy of chocolate and the joy of the feast of the Nativity of Christ, and not be ashamed of everyday joys, going towards divine joys...
Santa Claus once gave us chocolates to decorate the Christmas tree for the New Year. We hung them up and waited for Christmas to feast on them. On January 7, I got up at 8 in the morning (after the night service we came home at about 4!) to watch the fairy tale “Morozko”, which for some reason they decided to show at 8.10 during the school holidays. The Christmas tree, Morozko, smells deliciously of chocolate ... And somehow, imperceptibly, there were much fewer chocolates ... When the whole family got up, I had to admit where they had gone. And then it turned out that for Christmas, Santa Claus sent us another package of chocolate toys, which immediately decorated the Christmas tree.
You know, I still believe that the good wizard Santa Claus exists.
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I remember that the main thing in anticipation of the New Year was not the anticipation of gifts, not the smell of the Christmas tree, and not even the "Irony of Fate" (although this is all that creates the New Year's mood), but the question that grabs the soul: will Santa Claus come this year? ? The delight of touching a miracle was always mixed with a little fear: what if I have already grown so much that this time it will not come? But he invariably came, leaving behind an open window and a delicious cold wind walking around the apartment ...
Marina Kravtsova, child psychologist:
It is natural for a small child to believe in miracles. His thinking is akin to the thinking of primitive peoples - not knowing the laws of nature and not understanding the operation of technology, the child believes that much happens by magic. This faith is also promoted by those fairy tales that are read at this age. The heroes of children's fantasies have changed - Baba Yaga and Koshchei have been replaced by monsters and space pirates. But at the same time, the children remained the same gullible and they are just as easily disappointed. And, judging by my observations, almost all two-five-year-old children believe in the New Year's Grandfather, and many up to seven-eight years. Most often these are girls or very dreamy boys. The appearance of Santa Claus in the house or on the Christmas tree is a kind of ritual, tradition. Children do not have to believe that this is a real fairy-tale hero who can fulfill any wish - this is a symbol of the New Year, part of the game. But often they sincerely believe. Naivety is a necessary state of a child up to a certain age. The more actively he begins to contact the outside world, the more different information he has to absorb, often unpleasant, negative. But nature has come up with a wonderful defense mechanism - a small person enters adulthood through the game. Judging by how children in the West and in our country enthusiastically accepted stories about magicians and magic, they all, regardless of nationality, want to believe that miracles and witchcraft are possible. It is no coincidence that the storyteller Astrid Lindgren, the author of a story about a boy who invented a friend for himself, is so popular all over the world (and there are many such children both in our country and in the West). Do not think that by helping a child develop creative thinking, imagination, you thereby "infringe" on his rational and logical abilities. Developed imagination relies on developed logic. Imagination is the ability to create, to see the situation from a different angle, to find extraordinary solutions, to be able to put oneself in the place of another, to be more sensitive. Therefore, a well-developed imagination is important for both successful communication and learning. However, it should be remembered that emotional, dreamy and impressionable children are prone to excessive fantasizing. An overdeveloped imagination has its side effects: the appearance of fears that are unexpected for adults in a child, mixing fiction and reality in stories (such children are often considered liars), withdrawing into their fantasies (especially if reality becomes unbearable for a child). It is important to be able to direct the imagination in the right direction: give the child the opportunity to be creative (attend mugs or write down their stories and read them to their relatives), treat his fantasies indulgently (not to catch lies), help to cope with difficulties. I believe that it is not the children who have become rational, but their parents, who do not allow the child to be small and naive. Don't teach your kids to be practical too early. Who will grow out of them - cynics, skeptics, callous-hearted people who have aged early? Then it will not be easy and uninteresting for them to live, because friendship and love are also a miracle, which you must definitely believe in.
Anna Mikhalkova, host of the Good Night, Kids! TV program, mother of two children:
I believe that today's children have certainly become more rational in comparison with their peers of other generations. But this, in my opinion, has nothing to do with the fact that they do not believe in fairy tales. Although it seems contradictory, most children, knowing that there is no Santa Claus, still believe in him. In the same way, they believe in Baba Yaga, knowing for sure that this is a fiction. My sons, for example, on the one hand, know that Santa Claus does not exist, but on the other hand, they are waiting for him, because he will give them something. It seems to me that this happens because the child's consciousness does not see the difference between fiction and reality. Belief in a fairy tale does not determine the further development of life, it does not depend on how much a person is connected with reality. Therefore, it is completely absurd to try to raise a child as adapted to modern living conditions as possible, protecting him from fairy tales. In my opinion, this is madness - to try to prepare him for difficulties in advance, in fact, depriving him of his childhood. Fairy tales contain all the morality of this life in a more understandable form, the basic concepts are good, evil, friendship, love. Fairy tales are a tool for the development of fantasy, as well as faith in Santa Claus. And plus to everything - acquaintance with the national mentality. Therefore, for most children, the magical world - the world of fairy tales they understand - is much more interesting than the real one, in which they still do not feel confident enough.
Irina Lebedeva, Director of the Father Frost Service "Morozko":
The website of our Santa Claus Service has existed for about seven years. From the first day, we introduced the heading "Santa Claus' Mail" in it, where all visitors to Runet could write a letter to Santa Claus with their wishes, aspirations and other things. Over the years, we have accumulated about ten thousand letters and have already collected decent statistics. Most often write, of course, children. Many express skepticism, ask in messages whether Santa Claus really answers them, but I know that if parents invite Santa Claus to such a child, then he begins to believe in him. Children write to Santa Claus not only to ask him for a gift, but also often tell him about their most intimate problems, secrets, dreams, ask him to make mom and dad reconcile, and so on. Moreover, some do not ask for anything, but simply share with Santa Claus what they apparently do not tell their loved ones. I believe that children, despite the abundance of information and the rationalism of society, still believe in the New Year's miracle. Many parents, calling Santa Claus, warn us that the baby may try to feel Santa Claus, tear off his beard, because he is distrustful of the fact of his existence. Some romantic adults simply ask us to give a child who does not believe in anything a beautiful fairy tale. But we are invariably convinced that the arrival of Santa Claus changes everything. When a boy or girl sees a living Santa Claus on the threshold of his house and then communicates with him, he loses his disbelief. And here the fact of a material gift is not so much important as the feeling of a materialized holiday. For ten years of work with Santa Claus, we see the dynamics of the perception of this character by the population. If in the early years they were often skeptical of him - apparently, the stereotype of a drunken untidy uncle from the Zarya company was preserved, who presented a gift on the threshold and fell dead, now a lot of families, even those with already grown children, believe that the New Year is necessary Be sure to celebrate the arrival of the real Santa Claus. They are not limited to watching the New Year's TV program, but they want to get live communication, to touch the miracle.
Yuri, Santa Claus with ten years of experience:
I believe that there is no particular difference between children of ten years ago and modern ones. As they believed in Santa Claus ten years ago, so they believe now. After all, this faith comes from adults, from how a child is brought up in a family, and there are many such families where they love children, so that they grow up in an atmosphere of celebration, a miracle. It's great when adults take part in the performance. “Oh, who is that ringing at our door? Come take a look - maybe it's Santa Claus? The kid runs, opens the door and becomes numb ... It is easy to work in such families, and you leave from there, having received a large positive charge. The most "Dedmorozovsky" age is five or six years. But it happens that they invite even very young children - they say, you come, he will not understand anything, but he will feel that you are magical, and will be waiting for you next year. Situations when a child is skeptical are rare, and this almost never happens in families: Santa Claus is rarely invited to random people. In families of very different incomes and lifestyles, they usually rejoice at Santa Claus equally and look forward to his coming to the house.
All a terrible and terrible day, my dear fellow tribesmen! We have been waiting for this event all year, and here it is, this day has come .... THE DAY when we will finally be able to break free into the world of people and feast on fresh, innocent souls! *evil laughter sounds
In different countries and on different continents this night is called differently. For the successors of the ancient Slavs, this is Veles night, for the descendants of the ancient Celts, who now live throughout Europe and even on the continent of North America, this is the eve of All Saints' Day, which modern residents called Halloween, in China it is the holiday of Deng Jie - the day of remembrance of ancestors, and in Mexico "El Dia de los Muertos", which translates as days of the dead. These days end with picnics at the graves of deceased relatives. So on November 2, we will finish our feast, perhaps in Mexico
Here all those present begin to get out of their dark hiding places with interest and slowly and make approving sounds, and someone even tries to applaud with their expanding limbs.
Let me introduce myself! I am a succubus. Many consider me a woman, but I hasten to disappoint - in fact, I am a sexless creature, and only take on the image of a sexual seductress, and since I skillfully read people's thoughts and desires, I absolutely accurately guess the preferences of my victim and appear to him in that image, from which he cannot resist. People call me a real devil in a female form. My most tidbits are honest and respectable Christians, Catholics, Protestants and Jews. Oh Lord of Darkness! You simply cannot imagine what pleasure it gives me to persuade these abstainers to such a sweet sin of adultery! Thanks to the confusion and fear of the victim, I am able to successfully paralyze him, distort his perception of reality and get what I need. After all, the result of our erotic act can be not only my filling with one of the most powerful sexual energies, but also fertilization, as a result of which magicians, sorcerers and witches are born.
Who else will go with us to Earth, so that chaos and horror reign in the name of our brethren?!
199Toad Jabba
Hello! I am the Lizard, and I am anonymous (your remark - hello, Lizard! - and applause)
I came to you with a guilty head on this occasion. Yesterday's anonymous topic "Sister took the guy away" is mine. This was conceived a long time ago, a support group for anonymous numbers from 1 to 10 was assembled in advance. They did not know what the topic would be, but they were ready to rush into battle at a signal. Hooray, dear accomplices! And also cheers to you, Anonymous spontaneously joined like mushrooms after the rain from No. 11 onwards)
As for the topic. Ladies, I was 100% sure that in the story of the groom who was taken away with a crooked organ and “I can’t shoot from him,” at least someone would recognize the old joke. His dad told me. The sock balls and the wet diving habits were Googled for "stupid male habits". My only Wilhelms.
What have we achieved with this? Never mind. We had fun, took the soul away, I was finally awarded the title of a stupid green creature (not a Lizard, but another) I think that it turned out quite fun and massively.
Once again cheers to everyone involved and joining!
Anonymous
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Child 3 years old. 17 kg, height 100. There is no belly, it is strong, both my husband and I are not thin-boned. Always eat well. Eats from the common table.
But the last couple of weeks... Always hungry. Lunch at home when - a bowl of soup (moreover, the soup is not water with potatoes, but thick, with meat), then he says that he wants another sandwich. Eats 2 meat sandwiches. Asking for more...
Dinner cutlet, side dish, some fresh vegetables. After a couple of hours, kefir still asks for food ... I give either cheesecakes or cottage cheese.
Yes, she doesn't bite. We have tomorrow, lunch, afternoon tea and dinner. Only drinks water between meals.
I must say right away that there are no worms, only the other day they took a certificate to the pool, everything was handed over.
That's what it is? Some kind of growth spurt?
Just Unicorn Zombie
the story is not mine
she divorced 2 years ago, the reasons were, in my opinion, serious
then, we haven't seen each other for about a year
when they met, she said that BM bought an apartment on a mortgage in the same entrance with her (she is on the 4th. he is on the 10th). the common apartment was left to her and the child under a marriage contract.
To be honest, I laughed wildly))
the question is why?
P.S. she and the child saw him in the morning with a new ...... passion ......
horse
Today or yesterday there was a topic about how an aunt found her 16-year-old nephew with a girl with straight lines hinted at what had happened. And I have such a situation .... A nephew writes to me the other day that he forgot to do it. lang. I need 2 tasks urgently. and my mother (our grandmother is a teacher) was uncomfortable for me, I asked my husband. gave him assignments. they did with my mother, they threw everything off to him.
The point is not that, but the fact that a 40-year-old prankster joked about a 14-year-old teenager and wrote him Pivas from you ... - and stubbornly says it was a joke. Is the teenager taking it literally or... I don't know. and brought him a can of beer .... I say how I bought it (well, there is small money), but they don’t sell until 18. He's laughing. okay .. he spent the night with us (because in the morning to the tutor. from us closer) in the morning he goes to put the open jar in the refrigerator .... I .... didn’t understand .... well, what ... I’m here. .but slept well... wait it's like.... in short... I couldn't answer anything. And I'm still in some sort of shock...
Think. tell your brother ..... let him "secret" how he comes home. . but he can betray me ..... and just yell at him. to punish .... but something else is needed ..... then the teenager will stop trusting me (we don’t have a bad contact with him ..... and now we are trying hard to convey to him that it’s time to take up his mind and pull up his studies .. but motivation no. - although a good one.) and here beer ... it seems not on the street. but at home. and if it became bad .... what to do .. talk with your brother?
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